When guys meet you, what do they see? A buddy? A one night stand? The love of their life? Or a potential girlfriend? After reading these tips, you may discover that the reason you are single/in a reltaionship has a lot to do with the signals you’re sending out. Send out your messages straight and reel in a great catch. (By the way, here are 3 places to find your next boyfriend.)
Be a good listener. Not only to be love to be truly heard, but this will give you great hints on how he likes to be cared for, what his interests are, etc., giving you extra info on him and you r compatibility.

Be considerate and caring. You can’t call all the shots and all conversations will not revolve around you, for one. Second, treating him to a b-day dinner or sending a sweet card when he gets a promotion, or just because, shows him that you care.

Be open to his suggestions, make suggestions of your own. Give and take is the name of the game in relationships. Also, when you do the g&t, it gives you a chance to see if you enjoy yourself with him. Giving suggestions shows you are engaged and allows him to find out more about  you. The more intimacy you build, the more ways he can fall in love with you.

Value yourself and your independence as much as his. Being your own person, not clingy, shows him that you are a secure and confident girl, so the attention you give him is more valuable. You won’t just hold hands at the movies and flirt over dinner with anybody.

Watch what you say. Playing that game where you devalue yourself verbally with a “Really? You want to go out with me?” or “Friday. I’m busy.” (and don’t suggest and alternate date time) attitude may just tell him you’re a-not interested or b-you don’t want to date.  Also, if you say stuff like “I’m not really into relationships right now,” and you really mean “I’d like to go out with you, but I’m in a vulnerable place,” best be honest and go for the second one. Then at least he knows to take it slow…and if he doesn’t…is he the right one?

Leo (July 23 to August 22)

To romance the fiery Leo, stroke, stroke, stroke the kitty until he purrs. That is, compliment and give him your best back massage. Leo’s tend to be little spoiled kings, surrounded by beauty, kindness, and gentle words. They are popular and confident. Think about it: The king always get chased after for his bounty and status, his sunshine and pride. Be the girl who sees him for who he is, keeping him on his toes and his fragile ego in mind.

I just found this super quiz on dating. Hope you all find it spiffy cool.

The Dating Game

By Margeaux Baulch

Every woman has several different sides to her personality, but when it comes to relationships, which one is running the show? The heart-breaker? The romantic? The crazy, crying nut? to reveal just who your love-struck alter-ego is.

Your man’s ejaculate is really only made up of 1 percent sperm. The rest is various proteins, vitamins, sugars, salts, cholesterol, and water. It stands to logic that what your man eats will effect how he tastes…and smells in general. (The same goes for you.) If you want you man to taste a little sweeter and better, here are some tips. 1. Cut out or cut down on alcohol, caffeine, nicotine, and other obvious toxins.

2. Drink plenty of water.

3. Eat food that are naturally high in sugar, like papaya cranberry, melons, mangos, apples, and grapes.

4. Eat citrus, especially pineapple.

5. Avoid anything in the cabbage family (especially asparagus), too much red meat, heavy spices (garlic, onions, curry), and junk food.

6. Spices that improve taste are cinnamon, cardamom, and peppermint.

7. Plants high in chlorophyll, like parsley and wheatgrass, also help funky spunk.

It’s summer, and you’re in full bloom. I bet you’re cranky, hot, and horny. Why not try the classic position for pregnant women: doggie style. Yes indeed. But being summer, have you man get a little creative. Incorporate a mister to spritz lightly on your back as he get busy…or perhaps he can slick his hands with massage oil and give you a little rub down as you come up to ecstasy. Just a thought.

Ok, it looks odd. Not quite like a vibe, too cupped to look like a proper clit stimulator and not hard enough at the head for girls who are friendly with their G-spot and get off internally. But this Passion Lily is the bees knees. The internal stimulation and vibration is so deep, i thought it took root. Good as a vibe, and quite unexpectedly wondrous feeling way, deep inside. Use with a bullet or strap-on vibe for some super cross-pollination. Mendel would be proud.

We hear talk about pheromones being these invisible scents we naturally give off that attract or repel partners…but what are they?

A SheKnows article explains it like this:

Pheromones are naturally occurring substances the fertile body excretes externally, conveying an airborne message to trigger a response from the opposite sex of the same species.

Studies have shown that a primal response to pheromones, that little something that happens when you first meet someone, is a great indicator of physical, and even emotional, compatibility. That whole “You’ll know you’d sleep with him in the first 3 seconds of meeting him” is a response to pheromones. But are they an aphrodisiac?

Chemical attraction is no myth; it’s just a question of what that chemical is. According to Dr. Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist at Rutgers University, testosterone is the only true aphrodisiac for both men and women. You can trigger the testosterone by doing novel things together because novelty drives another chemical in the brain, dopamine, which will trigger testosterone and make you feel sexy.

Plenty of products on the market can enhance you natural pheromones. Have a look here for a few product suggestions

I found this excerpt from a book on seduction for men, “An Introduction to Using Kino.” You know the type: the people who really got into Neil Strauss’ “The Game” and are totally working on their…game. Really, improving your game is a way to get more female tail, but isn’t that kind of a limited goal.Here’s the “Dicknotist” (as he calls himself) writing about touch:

The Dicknotist writes:
When I think of touch, I imagine that my hands are like paintbrushes plastering my emotions onto her body. Call me the Jackson Pollack of seduction: I paint her arms her arms and torso now so that I can sprinkle some more on her face later…with my other special brush. So, when first talking to a girl, I will often just lightly touch her outer arms and torso with my fingers as I’m talking to her. I see it as expressive: you touch her as you talk to emphasize important points. That touch is more subtle and friendly, aimed at just making her comfortable and more trusting. During high points in the interaction, however, your touch should become more appreciative.

Touch serves two purposes: to emphasize what you’re saying to her and to appreciate her. An example of appreciation could be that in talking to her, she reveals that she works as a nurse. That immediately peaks your interest as your mom was a nurse and you realize the resiliency and compassion necessary for the job. Rather than just telling her how awesome that is, you should also touch her arm and hold it there a few seconds longer than usual and perhaps even stroke it.

Expressive touch is like a period: light and quick. Appreciative touch is like an exclamation point, lasting a good 2-3 seconds. Yet the point isn’t for you to have this in your head while talking to a woman but to give you a context for which touch can amplify and supercharge your game.

When you touch her, touch her as if you’re already making love to her. Cup your hand as you touch her back and cup the back of her shoulder blades. Don’t forget her sensitive spots, including her inner arms, behind her knees, the skin fold on the other side of her elbow. Later on in the interaction, touching her neck, ears, thighs, breasts will amplify her desire. Don’t be afraid to graze her breasts! Graze them now so you can glaze them later.

Do you accidentally leak when you sneeze/laugh/etc.? This is quite common when you have just given birth. But it doesn’t have to stay that way and you can prevent it in the first place by strengthening the muscles of your pelvic floor. Like the athletic child/teenager who laid a fine foundation for fine muscular tone as an adult, women can keep their selves taut down there by doing Kegel exercises. Ben wa balls, if you want an toy to use while exercises, are like dumb bells for your sweet bits. Here’s how to do Kegels (from a SheKnows article):

The target area for Kegels is called the pubococcygeus, or PC, and it can be tricky to find. While urinating, try to slow or stop the flow without using the muscles in your abdomen, buttocks, or legs. Concentrate on tightening the muscles around the opening of the vagina, pulling inward and upward.

As with any workout, consistency is the key to success with Kegels.

I always wondered how these female condoms worked. Here’s a video demonstration. (Don’t worry! She uses an anatomical model, not a real woman for the contraceptive demo.)