We all know who she is, but what makes Liz such a sexy icon? (We’re keeping it to the early because no one know what was going on with her in the 1980s…)

Those eyebrows: Perfect gullwings (totally accentuated here in ’60s sex kitten style) frame those sapphire baby blues. Hey, you know what they say about a good frame…makes a masterpiece even better.

That hair: Lush, leonine, here teased like Brigitte Bardot…keep it clean and full of volume, with a low-fuss elegance. Nothing says sex goddess like a delicious mane.

Those lips: Here, they’re a nude matte. Her pronounced cupid’s bow and full  lower lip give her a simultaneously severe and sexy look. Play up your cupid’s bow with a little liner and dot a bit of gloss in the center of your lower lip to accentuate the pout.

That vulnerability: Married, unmarried, rehab. She goes through men like Carrie through a Manolo candy shop…when you watch Liz act, she is at once strong and vulnerable (Butterfield 8 anyone?), fiery and romantic. Open up and share your weaknesses, but be self-sufficient. You can never quite put your finger on her, but wow, what a presence. Being elusive, literally and figuratively, does wonders to fire lust.

That shape: Only today do we look at Angie and Nicole and Paris and think “normal.” Liz was never a skinnie minnie. Here another Butterfield ref, but THAT SLIP she wears in the opening scene is almost painted on her curvy, womanly, beautiful body. Work your curves, ladies. But remember, they key to working your sexy shape is great lingerie and clothes that are cut to suit your shape. If you’re curvy, you’re probably not going to do well taking style cues from the Olsen twins. Keep your eyes on the classics.

Girl’s night in (you know…the one where you paint your toenails for three hours before putting on a mud mask and invigorating hair pack and after the home-Brazilian wax) just went from child’s play to serious research! Dr. Sari Locker suggests taking seduction cues from these movies. Time to figure out how those two lovers in From Here to Eternity got to that passionate kiss on the sand between the lapping waves in the first place!

• The Postman Always Rings Twice
• The Unbearable Lightness of Being
• The Big Easy
• 9 ½ Weeks
• La Belle Epoch
• Risky Business
• Fatal Attraction
• Basic Instinct
• Body Heat
• Ghost
• White Palace
• From Here to Eternity

In case you were wondering, here’s a link to an academic study telling you how you can flirt with him without saying a word. Ah, the ol’ wrap play with your hair while you’re talking trick DOES have a basis in science! Well, here’s another gem about how to spot if your partner is lying…And this video is priceless, really. Watch how the man breaks down female body language.

So, a recent study from Indiana University and Yale showed, in a nutshell and in a study of college-age men and women, that sending a sexy message with non-verbal clues can be as easy as just being friendly! Your signs of friendliness are likely to be read as signs of sexual interest.
Why? The article reads:

“Scientist have long known that young men are more likely than women to confuse friendly non-verbal cues with cues for sexual interest but the explanation for the gender difference has been less clear. The more popular of two competing theories attributes this to a tendency by young men to over-sexualize their social environment. The less popular theory — and the one supported by this new study — claims that women have an advantage when it comes to interpreting facial expressions and body language expressing a variety of emotions, thus are more likely to accurately ID cues for sexual interest. Young men are simply less literate when it comes to non-verbal cues.”

Ah, men. Always having to SPELL things out for them clearly…

Face it, men like to look at pretty things. Now, befor eyou go twisting yourself into a Courteney Cox/Brooke Shields-shaped pretzel, let’s be frank. Pretty usually means put together well. So, the cornerstone of seduction is keeping your beauty foundation strong. Here are seven seduction tips inspired by Immodesty Blaze at beautique.com.

1. You are unique, so find signature beauty items that suit your character and make you unmistakably you! Try a signature scent. Or try a signature nail polish colour. You could even go for something pretty like a new beauty mark!
2. Happy women are the sexiest. Work that smile! To keep those lips pillowy soft so that your smile stays seductive, use a good lip conditioner underneath your base and lipstick day and night.
3. Eye contact is key to a perfect seduction. So why not start wearing lash extensions –like Liz Taylor who had the longest, sexiest lashes.
4. To make your beauty look effortless takes a lot of work! So go for gold with the Crème De La Mer Ultimate Facial with Diamond Dust, exclusive to Urban Retreat at Harrods. And if a London trip is not in your cards, stick to basics.
5. Seduction is about the conceal as much as the reveal…so for this, I recommend luxury loungewear in silk, cashmere, or soft cottons.
6. When choosing a slinky outfit, dress for your shape rather than for fashion. Focusing on a bare shoulder or a low cut back, or even some toe cleavage can be just as sexy than the more obvious erogenous zones! So keep that bare shoulder smooth and silky, with a scented body cream.
7. Seduction is supposed to be fun, so why not set the scene for some naughty games later. Remember how much fun it used to be passing notes to each other as teenagers? Find some exquisite stationery and have your hand at love notes…Valentine’s Day and beyond.

“Will he or won’t he?” plus cute lingerie. Here’s an easy chuckle for you girls holding your breath. This adorable video riffing on “Sex and the City” may just inspire you to click here.

Flipping through the ladies mags du jour (and strolling down to the boardwalk this weekend), summer is clearly here for keeps, until it’s out of season. Which raises some interesting seduction quandaries. For this hot season, what do we discard and what do we keep? Summer romance may warrant torrid one-night-St. Barts-stands that require a stronger come on (maybe).

Or that red pout just may be too matte for this fleshy season. Here’s a hot or not list with a few little opinions thrown in.

Hairy pits and third day legs or Hyper-groomed

Keep yourself well-groomed. That is, don’t wax until YOU feel too bare, but be aware of your commitments to the beach and your (soon-to-be or of this second) beau. I say, keep your legs and underarms clean, unless the other way is your thing, and keep the bikini line in check with your fave bikini bottom. Now facial hair is another story. Thicker brows do better in summer, if you’re doing a more natural look, but all that light will shine on your little dark chin hairs, so keep it waxed.

Poker straight hair or a Going with your hair’s natural flow.

I say Summer should be about easy, so unless your hair is totally unmanageable without hot tools, spritz a bit of salt/water solution (should be slightly saltier than tears) into your hair and scrunch for tousled beach hair. Easy, breezy, no-fuss sexy.

Red, red lips (year-round) or changing your shade to suit the season.

If you’re faithful to red,  keep it to the nighttime hours. In the day, opt for a stain or gloss.

 Direct come-ons or nuanced flirting.

Well, the beach holiday season seems to be one for fast flings. But does your flirting tactic have to change? If you’re feeling experimental and not into any games, ask for what you want directly, if it turns you on. Otherwise, nothing says take it slow like that heavy, heat and ocean breeze.

 Skin, skin, skin  or Picking your best feature and flaunting it.

Both! Dress sexy in the summer by showing off your best assets: Young, beautiful, tanned, moisturized, not over-baked skin and that bod you’ve been working on.

But maximize your assets. If you love your booty, let your beach cover up be a tunic that shows off your bottom and legs; a halter dress if you’re all about your shoulders and back.

Summer give you that flaunt it lee-way that isn’t really called for in Spring. Go ahead. Bare a little more. Just know when to stop.

America’s favorite sex columnist is not me. Nope. Sorry. But Dan Savage. (What a hunk, huh?) Now here’s a guy with a wide, open mind and sexually sane way of thinking who fields difficult questions from how to deal with fetishes to sex and disability. Informed, intelligent and up-to-the-minute, this may even be a great resource for moms who have more…intricate questions about that birds and bees talk that’s waiting to happen. Enjoy exploring! Don’t forget to check out his books…this one might float your boat:

Our own SheKnows blogger from Alytude gets intimate about her favorite things! Numero Uno: The Rabbit.

How I wish I had a retractable heart. It would make the gauntlet of love so much more simple and pain-free. So while I dream of being able to retract certain sentiments, I’ve kept myself company with this super-cute toy. While I wander the city (this week it’s Santa Barbara) in search of the perfect something (this week it’s a t-shirt), my little buddy from AdamEve.com takes up one pocket and a bullet-sized space in my panties. I don’t know how I feel about vibe-ing in public, but I can see how the retractable cord function might be stimulating for couples playing sexy games at parties. If only it were remote controlled. The best thing about the product is how adorable it is. And if you like bullets, this is a good one. Meanwhile, I’m drafting a letter to the toy company:Dear Cal Exotics,

I like your retractable heart massager very much, but more than an orgasm, I need a massage and an easy way to retract my heart from not-quite-right-romance. I know your product designer isn’t Santa Claus or a genie, but if you could devise a product that would keep my emotions on a leash, running around with a bullet in my pocket would be much more fun.

Yours Sincerely,

Horny with Heartache