Hitting the doldrums with your man is easy to do: work is tough, you have a million and five things on your plate, you’re tired, he’s stressed, vice versa and so one. Having recently hit a patch like this with mine, I can tell you nothing was going to pull us out of the quick sand…or so it seemed.For some reason, I can’t pin point why, maybe out of some sort of wild desperation to relive happier, more carefree times (free of house payments, car payment, overtime…), we started doing things we loved to do as children. We went to the zoo, picnicked in the part, went to local fairgrounds, slept in late, and haunted places our parents used to take us as children.

Being at “that” stage in our relationship, we were reminded that making children was something we are really looking forward to. And, as if by magic, the libido was up and running again. Now, yoga took a back seat this month to spending time with honey, but it’s Ok. All the wandering around, impromptu games of tag, and what not kept that sloth feeling at bay. And, boy, does being a bit of a yoga freak have benefits we haven’t explored in bed. It’s just nice to see that we’ve found the time in our schedules, by letting the love in our hearts lead us, to be guided back to the bedroom for grown-up playtime.

Playfulness is seductive for singles too.

Sex, sexuality, and seduction are all well and good…when you  know what to do with them. But, as is easily observed when walking through any shopping area, young girls are increasingly targeted by suggestive advertising. Take a look at your daughter’s Bratz doll…is a leather mini, fishnets and boa really an outfit you want your child to associate with fond childhood memories? You know this blog is totally sex positive, but there is a time and a place, and a certain  level of maturity, education, and understanding that needs to come about before bombarding our daughter with sexually suggestive content. To help parents with this the YMCA created a number of short videos on how to counteract the sexual objectification of girls. The educational video series is called Early Sexualization: A Guide for Parents of Pre-Teen Girls.

Speaking of seduction in India, watch this pop star seduce her man…Bollywood-style.

A great smile, long hair, and great energy…these things seems to really float a man’s boat. The Times of India asked some of their hottest hunks (did you know the Indian film industry is bigger than Hollywood?) what turns them on (Insolence? Really, Pritish?), and here goes!

Singer Palash Sen says, “I am always looking for intelligence in a woman. This apart, I also like women who sport long hair.” And hold on, smile is also a great turn on. ”

TV actor Chetan Hansraj says: “A beautiful smile makes me go weak in the knees. A good smile has the power to hypnotise.”

VJ Yudhishtir Urs, “It’s about the way a woman carries herself and the energy she exudes. Confidence, elegance and a sense of style have a magnetic appeal.”

TV actor Karan Grover says, “I feel a woman with beautiful eyes is sure to make heads turn. How a woman speaks and carries herself is also important.”

Model turned actor Parvin Dabas maintains that, “Being a good human being is all that matters.”

“Insolence and unpredictability, long legs, beautiful scent and intelligence — a woman who has all that is the most desirable woman in the world,” says Pritish Nandy, a leading producer.

Cancer (June 21 - July 22)

To seduce a Cancerian, you need to show off your sensitive side. These Moon Children are wonderfully soft and fuzzy on the inside. Interest in volunteering, especially regarding children is a good one (if you’re being honest!). Seduction happens easily when pampering the Cancer in a domestic way…they like to nest after all. Ask permission before you make your moves, or if you make a move, demurely apologize for being so bold.

Slap happy after reading how-to books on man-pleasing last night (and no, I don’t mean the Housewife’s Guide to Pleasant Living), my man said bluntly, “The best how-to guide is me. Listen.” Hm, so giving the world’s best blowjob can’t be learned from a book. I counted the number of things I’ve tried on him in the past…stuff expounded as the be all and end all of male pleasure–even tips from my gay “boyfriend.” The only one that seemed to stick was how to play with his balls and oral-anal pleasure. The rest have been a “That’s nice, but if you’d…” affair. That’s fine, but sometimes a girl just wants to show up and be SuperWoman in bed.

Aha. To my frustrated face, he replied, “But because you listen to me, you are SuperWoman in bed. My SuperWoman.”

And then the warm fuzzies came.

Now what are how-to books and columns like this for? Permission and creative inspiration. So, read with a grain of salt and enjoy knowing that for whatever dirty deeds you come up with that he agrees to, I will always support you in your exploration. Let freakness be your weakness.

Sometimes a smaller willy can be a blessing. Anyone can suffer from jaw ache during oral sex, of course, but there’s nothing that makes a woman feel like a queen more than masterfully taking charge of him with her mouth for a while (right?), rather than the banana trying to consume the gorilla.Here are a few *preventative* tips for the great jaw ache dilemma.

Twist Your Tongue

No, not some obscure exercise…try a few classic She sells seashells or Peter Pipers to make your mouth more agile. Any kind of enunciation makes your mouth more of a precision instrument.

Chew Gum 

Yup, that’s it. Work those mandibles.

Revisit Your Gym Warm Up

This is another one you can do at work and no one will be any the wiser: Do neck rolls. Chin to chest and side to side. Slow and steady.

Now for the Tricky One

Sit down with your mouth closed, touching the tip of your tongue to the top of your mouth. Run the tip back towards your tonsils, teeth together. When it’s back as far as it goes, open your mouth slowly and hold for a few seconds. Repeat.

Maybe it’s the heat, but today I’m a bit orally fixated. Between aching jaws and chewing gum, I’m thinking a lot about going deep. I mean, Deep Throat, the 1970s adult movie, was such a hit they’re making branded energy drinks and even doing a musical of the classic porno!

To, uh, untangle your tingle, you can try this at home:

Lay back on your bed with your head slightly hanging over the edge…or laying back on a sofa rest your neck on the sofa arm. It should be like when you get your hair washed at the hairdressers. Basically, if you want to take him in your mouth, deeply, this position set your head and throat at the same angle as his penis, allowing for access that is easier on you. Now, ladies, this takes practice and can be quite a feat. If you can get a good thrust in once, you’ve done well.  And it if it doesn’t feel good, don’t do it.

Plus, these oral sex mints only get you so far…

I had no idea sex was so good for the body! The gym..whatever. How about nookie to get in shape this summer?

When I was in junior high, at the height of the days when boys snapped the straps of girls donning their first bras, the PE teacher sat us down one day. Someone had kneed one of the boys in the balls as a result of bra-snapping. Now, I was all for that. Really, how humiliating to have to endure guerilla attacks of pre-adolescent heathens and their teasing…being one of the only girls in the school to need a B-cup…was relentless. The PE coach said, in a dire tone, something to the effect of “If you kick boys in the the balls it can prevent them from having children. It is a sensitive place and incurs MuCh MUCH mUcH pain. We will take this matter very seriously if it happens again.” Which meant we’d get suspended. Needless to say, the boys could let their boys hang loose, but we continued to endure bra-snapping. And thus your blogger, young Annabelle, developed a relationship to balls as clumsy people have with china shops, to the dismay of several lovers. Little did I know, those huevos can be tugged, bitten, sucked, licked, batted, caressed, bound, and fondled to my heart’s and his content. But, watch out ladies, if you go too far by a tiny, tiny bit…it’s like the bottom…you may never be granted access again.

Here are some pleasure tricks for his boys:

During intercourse, reach around and cup his balls gently while he’s going at it. This works best when you are on top.

Carefully discern the sack from the egg-shaped testes, and suck on the loose skin, run it through your lips, nibble a little. But careful you don’t catch any of the internal bits or…you’ll get suspended.

For the guys who like it a little rougher, slap them gently when you’re sucking him or whenever you can reach them. Best to do a double check to see if it feels good.

Lastly, invest in a cock ring…not only will he last longer, but the sensation will be increased and his boys will bulge like plums. (This one will give you a buzz too!)