Today’s sexpert is Catherine Toyooka, a sexuality speaker, sex educator, and dating coach who helps professionals living in the San Francisco Bay Area and beyond. Here’s what she told Sexcerpts is her favorite sex tip:
Masturbate, masturbate, masturbate!
“It’s such a shame that we have learned to believe that masturbation is such a bad and dirty thing to do. I’m a huge advocate of masturbation, and much of what I do as a sexuality speaker and coach is give clients permission to really explore and touch themselves.
“For women, masturbation can be incredibly empowering. Mainly, I love masturbation because it puts you in touch with your own sexual response cycle. It allows you to explore different fantasies, sex toys, and your own fabulous body. I am also a huge advocate of masturbation because there is no wrong way of doing it. Dildos and vibrators can be amazing additions to self-love, but don’t forget that you have 10 magnificent fingers, too. Also, masturbation is a wonderful escape from ruminating on our body image issues. Seriously, no one is thinking about their perceived body flaws when they are in the throes of self-love.
“Masturbation is also empowering because once you figure out what really gets you off, you are much better equipped to communicate with your partner exactly what it is you like. Embracing your own sexuality through masturbation is one of the most beautiful and powerful gifts you can give yourself. Now go out there and masturbate!”
For more information on Catherine, visit her website.