Is something as simple as putting the kids to bed an hour earlier the key to keeping marriage sexy? Jessica Alba, 31, who has two little girls, says a schedule has been crucial for her romantic life with husband Cash Warren, 33, and recommends it to other moms searching for some “us” time at the end of the day.
She shared her technique, which she learned from a friend who set 7 p.m. as a firm bedtime for her kids, on her iVillage blog:
Cash and I have also found that maintaining a family schedule is the key to making time for each other. Whether we’re settling into the couch to watch bad reality television or getting a babysitter so we can enjoy a date night out, we always know we have dedicated time after the girls are asleep to catch up, discuss what’s on our minds, and simply just be with each other (no cell phones or e-mail allowed!).
She goes on to say that Cash picks up his share of the family chores too:
And maybe it’s because I’m 30 or maybe it’s because I’m a mom, but I don’t think romance is always about swinging from chandeliers (although it’s nice from time to time). It’s really about the small gestures too. Recently when filming a movie in Atlanta, Cash surprised me by having a beautiful bouquet of flowers delivered to the set. It was a simple, heartfelt surprise that let me know he was thinking of me during my time away from home. I loved it. He also takes over middle-of-the-night feedings, tends to fevers, and takes the girls to the park without me having to ask because he knows I need a break. All these things add to our romance.
Maybe it’s easier said than done to get the kids tucked in at the same time every night, but if it means you’ll reap the reward of a stronger marriage, playing the “bad cop” might be worth it. Hmmm…and that’s a role you can take into the bedroom too.
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