So, about this elusive G-spot, whose anatomic existence a Florida International University scientist claimed to find last spring: Since it’s theoretically been proven to exist, how can we get a piece of that pleasure pie? Here’s where the newly updated and revised book The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot comes in. Author Violet Blue goes back to anatomy basics to help us not only locate that special place, but crank up our sexual enjoyment at the same time.
Check out a few choice excerpts from the book. (P.S. We definitely recommend trying this at home.)
How to Find Your G-Spot:
“Want to feel it? One way is to stop a stream of urine, mid-flow. Doing this, you’re flexing your PC muscles (the sling of pelvic muscles that engage during orgasm) and putting acute pressure on your G-spot to flex. Another way to investigate the G-spot is with your fingers—putting a finger or two just inside your vagina and stroking the front wall. You’ll have to curl your hand around a bit to get your fingertip to stroke the front wall, so sitting down on a stool or hard chair might make it easier for you to spread your legs, push your pelvis forward, and feel. I highly recommend using a water- or silicone-based lubricant in your explorations, as different surfaces are easier to detect under slick fingertips…
“What you’re feeling for is a soft bump or slight change in the surface of your vaginal wall. If you touch yourself just inside your vagina, you’ll notice that the surface near the opening is slightly furrowed with subtle ridges, and a bit more so in the area where you’ll be concentrating your search for the urethral opening. It’s interesting to note that this ridgy outer area of the vaginal canal (about the inner third) is more sensitive to touch, vibration and more subtle textures and shapes than the smooth-walled inner part (the inner two thirds), which cares less about vibration and responds pleasurably to sensations like fullness, rhythm and thrusting. If you’re feeling like exploring, touch and press all around your urethral opening while squeezing your vaginal muscles and see if you can feel what’s beneath the surface.”
And now on to the really fun stuff…
How to Stimulate Your G-Spot:
“Before you start, go pee. Then get yourself turned on, or keep any potential G-spot toys at the ready for when you do feel extra horny and want to experiment with your spot. Use any means you prefer for getting turned on; porn, fantasy, heavy petting with a lover, your favorite toys — whatever you like the most at that moment. Masturbate and bring yourself to a point of orgasmic urgency, where you really want to take yourself to the next level and orgasm. Put a vibrator on your [clitoris], and play with it there for a while. Then reach for the lube, and start your G-spot stimulation.
“G-spot stimulation requires firm pressure; it takes a strong touch or a solid sex toy, and you’ll find that it feels best when you really press toward the front of your body. You may be able to touch the urethral opening, but the entirety of the G-spot is behind that, within the vaginal wall. That’s what you’re aiming for. Start with a little pressure at first and try out pulses, up and down strokes, side-to-side motions, or even moving in lazy circles over the area that feels best. Pay attention to how different techniques feel as you try them out, and take note of the ones you like the most. Go at your own pace with adding or lifting pressure on your G-spot as you take in all of the physical data your body is sending you about what you’re doing.”
From The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot by Violet Blue, published by Cleis Press, copyright © 2012. Reprinted by permission of publisher.
Happy exploring! For more information about finding and using your G-spot to your advantage (in particular, with a partner), buy the book here!
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