Before you dip your toe into the dating pool after a marital split, check out a few words of wisdom from one of our favorite sex docs, Dr. Laura Berman, who provided seven tips for getting back out there again in the Chicago Sun-Times. Here are our favorite two pieces of advice:
Take time to heal. Divorces are not uncommon, but that doesn’t mean that it is any less painful or heartbreaking when it occurs to you and your family.
You might feel pressure to go out and meet new people or instantly enjoy your singledom (some people even throw “divorce parties”), but your heart and your spirit might not be ready for that yet.
Consider this equation: Divide the total length of your relationship by two. Then, use that number as guide for when you should consider committing to a serious relationship once again. For instance, if you were in a four-year marriage, consider waiting two years before making the leap into a serious relationship again. (If you were in a long-term relationship of more than eight years, you don’t need to wait more than four years unless you so desire. The number is only meant as guide; your heart will ultimately tell you whether you need to wait a little longer).
Before you know it, you’ll be making a thoughtful re-entry into the dating scene. Read the rest of Dr. Berman’s tips here!
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