Perhaps you’ve mastered the art of not sounding crazy in your online dating profile. Congrats! But now it’s time to learn how to send a message to someone you’re interested in on a dating site without seeming like a lunatic.
A recent Buzzfeed story whittled down the process to nine easy steps. Here are our two favorite hints.
A one-sentence message probably isn’t saying enough, but you also don’t want to send a novel. Responding to a few items in a person’s profile will take somewhere between three and eight sentences; if you find yourself writing a six-paragraph missive, work that delete key.
Keep it positive
No one wants to date sad-sack, and no one wants to hear about your terrible past dating life the first time they talk to you. We’re all Internet dating here — it follows that we are all single and perhaps don’t want to be. So don’t whine about your lack of a love life, don’t lament the fact that you’re such a nice guy but women are such harpies, and definitely don’t threaten to kill yourself because you’re lonely. Sell yourself! If you want extra credit (and a better chance at a response) be a little bit witty. Remember that nearly everyone likes someone who takes an interest in them. So respond to what’s in their profile and ask a question or two. Don’t make it The Sad-Face Show. Keep it breezy.
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