We’ve all been there: You’re at a friend’s wedding and spy a hottie across the room. But how do you go from sipping your chardonnay solo to effortlessly chatting him up, without appearing like you’re trying too hard? We asked Marni Battista, CEO of love advice site Dating with Dignity, how to pick up a cute single guy at a wedding…without looking like “that girl.” (You know what we mean.) Read on for Battista’s wisdom on how to be cool as a cucumber when you’re on the prowl.
Sexcerpts: How can a woman approach a single male guest (or groomsman) at a wedding without appearing desperate?
Marni Battista: The best way to approach a male guest is to get him to pursue you! You can do this by making sure you don’t drink too much, get your best girl flirt on, and ask him for help! From, “Do you mind holding my drink while I go put my bouquet in the other room?” to “This is my favorite dance song, but I can’t for the life of me remember the artist. Do you know?” If you see him across the room, make sure you smile at him — he needs you to make it obvious as men always seem to wonder if you are smiling at them or someone else! — and look him in the eye without looking away awkwardly!
Let’s say a lady hits it off with a single guy at a wedding. How can she get her kicks (a little dancing, maybe a little kissing) without going too far and embarrassing herself — or the bride and groom?
To keep your dignity intact at a wedding, make sure you know your limit when it comes to alcohol consumption. There is nothing more unattractive than the drunk bridesmaid who makes out or sleeps with the groomsman, is seen stumbling around, or ends up being a bit too much of the “life” of the party. A little old-fashioned makeout is harmless, but make sure you are discreet in the “where” and the “when.” Keep it clean, ladies. It is a family event!
If a woman is going to a wedding and isn’t in the wedding party, what’s a flattering and foolproof outfit she can wear?
The little black dress can go a long way when it comes to wedding wear. It’s simple, sleek, and comfortable. Make sure you don’t wear shoes that aren’t dance-friendly — or be okay with throwing those shoes in the corner and going barefoot! Because it’s not too bold or trendy, that little black dress can be your go-to wedding basic.
If a single gal isn’t having much luck meeting new men at a wedding, how can she psych herself up to have a good time solo, with friends instead of potential beaus?
Think about why you were invited to the wedding in the first place. Often, we get stuck in a pity party where we focus solely on what’s not good about the wedding, our relationship status, or the size of our butt in that bridesmaid dress. Instead, think about how bringing your best you to the party could make your friend (the bride) know that her wedding was the absolute most amazing and fun time a person could have witnessing “I do!” Think about her dream wedding and the effort she has put into the event, and then create a plan to be the best guest she has. Moving the focus off of you and onto her will get you out of your pity party pronto!
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