We don’t recommend thinking of every date as a sales pitch (that’s kind of soulless), but we liked this article, “How Dating is Like Sales,” from Forbes writer Andy Ellwood. Specifically, we dug this piece of advice about staying positive, which is something we all need to remember when we’re in the dating trenches:
Don’t Need It: Whether it is the end of the quarter and you haven’t hit your quota or it has been five months since your last date, no one wants to start something off with someone who screams of desperation. Those details, while on your mind, must never be communicated to the person you are talking to. No one will say “yes” because they feel bad for you.
Not to get too personal, but we’ve definitely been on dates with people who have been great catches on paper, but they revealed a bit too much about their dating history, and it’s made us go “ew.” The takeaway, which Ellwood hints at, is this: Even if you despise dating, if you’ve been burned recently, if your last few boyfriends have been losers, if you’re tipping the scale toward hating the entire gender that you’re attracted to, keep quiet about it.
Stay positive about the topic of relationships (or at least come off that way to the person sitting across from you) and voice your excitement about the future, and they’ll want a little piece of that enthusiasm for themselves — and want to date you because they’re interested in you, not because you’re a charity case. You can do it!
Just a little love pep talk on a Thursday.
[Forbes]
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