Aren’t you glad this aren’t didn’t start out “5 ways to put the ‘ho’ in hohoho”? I was tempted… as it’s that time of year where the puns sound punnier, the sweaters more elaborate, and normally cheesy sentiments fill everyone with good cheer. So let’s take all that happy holidays and the spirit of giving and put it into the bedroom, shall we? There’s no reason eggnog should be the only thing full of spice!

1.’Tis the season for a quickie!

Between family obligations and Secret Santa sneakiness, sex may be the last thing on your naughty or your nice list. On the nice side, bust out your organizer and pencil in some alone time with your man. For the busiest of the busy, the bedroom may be out of the question. Get naughty by stealing cheeky kisses, squeezes, and more while wrapping presents, just before the folks turn up for dinner, well, whenever the fancy strikes! Read the rest.

Sex advice couple Dan and Jennifer ask, “Can swinger relationships, or open relationships, REALLY work or are they just a recipe for disaster?” What do you think She Knows readers? I want to hear from you, and don’t leave anything out!

Can cheating kill you? Researchers have found that not only can cheating damage your relationship (duh), but it can send your stress levels through the roof!

Catherine Northam, a counselor for Relate, outlined some of the main causes of stress and double dipping, shall we say.

“You want to be together with the person you’re having the affair with, but you have to go to great lengths to set up times for when you can be together,” she said. She added that the fear of discovery is also a stress trigger.

Her observations follow research by the Italian Society for the Study of Migraines which identified a higher instance of the potentially fatal headaches among those having an affair.

Nope, good lovin’ don’t cost a thing, mother daughter sex psychotherapy duo Georgia and Beverley Ann are keen to remind us, especially in these purse-string-tightening times. In a recent article in the UK’s Sun, they shared four tips on how to max out your lust, not your credit card:

“Your mind needs to be participating”, so don’t just go for looks. Go for what turns on your biggest sexual organ: the brain.

Seduction is an age-old part of having sex but Georgia and Beverley Anne believe it’s about far more than kinky lingerie.

“It’s your responsibility to understand what turns you on”, they tell the paper.

Also, “smell, touch, sound and taste” all important when it comes to getting busy between the sheets.

As for other top tips, the sexperts suggest it is necessary to “surrender” to your partner, which should be followed by “reflection” on what worked and what didn’t.

Practice makes perfect, so have at it!

Condoms can really make or break any erotic encounter. I can’t tell you how often the thing has slipped, slid, snapped, or just felt weird - and it has really, really put a dent in the warm mood. Headed up by an American prof, European men are giving their anonymous opinions about rubber johnnies, in aid of a better prophylactic. According to Professor Michael Reece from Indiana University’s sexual health center, there are more options for us stateside to find the perfect love glove.

“The fit and feel issues that men report may be among those that contribute to their likelihood of using, or not using, condoms consistently and correctly,” he said. This research may help manufacturers and health care professionals in their mission for safe, fun, care-free sex.

Daily Bedpost went on the street on found out all about one night stand etiquette…straight from the streets.

Wondering how to restart the sparks in your relationship? This video outlines a new therapist-created method. Enjoy!

One of She Knows’ media partners, Cosmopolitan wrote the perfect article on keeping the romance alive…especially when you hit that year, year and a half routine. These 23 tips will make sure you get butterflies again!

1. Share a Secret Code

Pick a word that’s likely to come up occasionally in conversation (heat, midnight, bedroom, whipped cream…) and agree that every time someone uses it, you have to touch — anything from a kiss to a lingering thigh stroke under the table.

2. Transform Dinner into Dining

That midweek post-grind meal you devour together? Make it register off the mush-o-meter with some tiny adjustments to the atmosphere. “Pull out your nicest dishes and light a couple of candles, even if you’re just having a mushroom pizza,” suggests Gregory Godek, author of 1001 Ways to Be Romantic (Casablanca Press, 2000). “It’s the mood, not the food, that sets a romantic scene. So stick a bouquet of daisies from the corner store in the center of the table, lower the lights, and turn up Enrique Iglesias or Bessie Smith. You could even conveniently forget the utensils so you have an excuse to feed each other.”

3. Get Swept Off Your Feet

Make up your own tango moves and groove with your guy for 15 minutes while you wait for dinner. Pop in the Marc Anthony CD, then press your pelvises together, entwine your legs, and twist and twirl around the living room. “Slow dancing is so intimate,” says Godek. “The way you stand hip-to-hip, block out the world, and sway to each other’s rhythms … now you’re really cookin’.”

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When you think of thrilling your man’s body…what do you think of? Stroking his inner thighs, playing with his hair, kissing his neck…right? Well, ever give a thought to his 5 little piggies?Us girls get spoiled on a regular basis at the nail salon. Why not try some of those foot care tricks on your man? It’ll be a new pleasure for him…and totally surprise him. It’s not really a “man” thing to do.

Try this: run him a shallow bath of warm water with some aromatic salts.

Wash his feet and give him a light foot massage.

Use your pumice stone to smooth the balls and heels of his feet.

If he’s man enough, trim and shape his toe nails.

He’ll love it, but watch out. You may have created a foot-pleasure monster.

Here are 5 ways to keep a long distance relationship red hot. 

1. Pamper yourself. This is a great time to visit a toy store and pick up a few goddies you’ve always wanted to try out. Indulge your desire to experiment with solo sex…and let your man know what you’re up to. This may make from some…

2. Hot phone sex. The phone is perhaps one of the most erotic tools of the modern age. And it keeps getting better with photo and video capability. Provocative text messages, sweet, hot whispers down the line. Tell him your dirtiest fantasies about him and chat about what turns you both on. You may soon find yourself going hands-free. But if you’re feeling vintage try…

3. The old-fashioned love letter. If you’re not much of a writer, go to the great classics of erotica (A.N. Roquelare, aka Anne Rice, is great for modern, steamy prose whereas Lady Chatterley’s Lover or Story of O are well-suited if you want to trip back a few decades.) Otherwise, write down what you are too bashful to say. Part of the joy of letter writing is fine stationery and even a spritz of his favorite scent.

4. IOU… a sensual massage…kisses up and done your spine… Make getting back in the same city an arrival to remember. Email or send erotic IOUs to your honey that can be redeemed upon return to you warm embrace.

5. Why not make use of modern technology? Hook it up with a video cam on your computer…and let the good times roll…long distance…with your own live video chat.