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BOP magazine, I loved you!

August 25th, 2008 by Saskia Vogel

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Just throwing this one out there. I was browsing the magazines at my local supermarket and BOP magazine caught my eye.  I totally remember the hot, sweaty crushes I had on the young TV stars and boys with slicked hair that smiled at me from torn out posters…Ah, the adolescent thrill and rush! It was the first encounter with true passion I had as a girl…aside from horseback riding. I’m not sure what it can be compared to now: a real crush, breakfast in bed,  a good massage? Sometimes I think today I love my food processor with the same intensity as…Rider Strong back in the day.

What is your earliest heart-pounding memory?


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Bellydancing for Virgos

August 22nd, 2008 by Saskia Vogel

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Being a Virgo, I did a little extra reading when researching this month’s Zodiac Seduction post. Guess what I cam up with? Apparently, the belly is the the spot of seduction for us Virgos. No wonder I was so obsessed with bellydancing last year (any maybe why there’s always a little extra, um, “love” on my petitely round belly.) Well, in a quick aside, bellydancing of course is a way to show your belly some extra love and turn it into a center of sensual seduction (that Snoop song, I swear! When will it stop popping up in my head as I write this column?). Yoga also is a form of exercise that’ll give you a toned body, a strong core, but, I’ve noticed, keeps that nice softness of the form.

Yoga sex tips plus more here. 


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Six Lust Increasing Tips

August 20th, 2008 by Saskia Vogel

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1. Avoid Excuses
Problem: You often blame circumstance for not having sex. Solution: Just stop! There are no excuses to avoid pleasure! There’s always time. Change your mindset2. Tempt Each Other

Problem: It so infrequently, you’re out of the sensual excitement sync.

Solution: Pick a date and time! Anticipation makes the moment sweeter.

3. Talk
Problem: Well, how come you’re not in bed yet?

Solution: Sit down and figure out what’s keeping you out of each other’s knickers. You may be surprised how simple the answer is.

4. Kiss
Problem:
You’re focusing too much on having sex.

Solution: Foreplay, foreplay foreplay! Focus on loving. Don’t focus on the “goal.”

5. Get Help
Problem:
You’ve tried everything together and it’s just not working.

Solution: Get professional help from a sex therapist. They’ll help you see your situation in a new light.

6. Respect Each Other
Problem:
Nagging and fighting and blame is a lust killer.
Solution: Hey, relax. You love each other, right? Treat each other that way and the lust will come.


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Top 5 Sex Facts

August 18th, 2008 by Saskia Vogel

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Here are the top five sex facts from SheKnows.com

1. The best medicine…

According to the Museum of Sex, the vibrator was originally used as a medicinal treatment for female “hysteria” during the 19th century. The vibrator-induced orgasms helped doctors dissipate hysteria’s anxiety-related symptoms.

2. Say cheese!

Semen contains zinc and calcium, both of which are proven to prevent tooth decay.

3. Hop to it.

The iconic “Rabbit” is renowned for two things: excellent results and an odd smiley face on its tip. Women’s Health tells us the smiley face was actually a result of conservative Japanese customs. Apparently, Japanese consumers frown upon “the production of sex toys that too closely resemble phalluses,” so the smiley face was added.

4. Does he measure up?

The average size of an erect penis is 5 inches, and the average flaccid penis measures about 3 inches.

5. The sad truth.

While this fact is neither entertaining nor humorous, it’s shocking to note that homosexuality remained on the American Psychiatric Association’s list of mental illnesses until 1973.\

You’ll have to click here to read the rest!!


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Uh Oh! Office Romance

August 7th, 2008 by Saskia Vogel

office_romance.jpgOffice romance: It feels so right and wrong! With Americans spending over 50 hours a week in the office, no wonder people are hooking up at work. So many questions come up when you start to feel all a-flutter about your co-worker. Is this because of a power dynamic? Am I mixing up working well together with intimacy? Will I compromise my position/perception in the office? Will I compromise his? Should it be public? Office romances are fraught with many things, but SheKnows got down with Helaine Olen, co-author of the book Office Mate: The Employee Handbook for Finding and Managing Romance on the Job to talk about this very subject.

Margeax Baulch asks her all the right questions. Take it away MB:

SheKnows: Interoffice dating has received such a bad rap over the years. What are the advantages? Why do people do it?

Helaine Olen:
Office dating replicates the old-fashioned courting rituals of 100 years ago. You get to know someone slowly over a period of time and it allows you to notice the subtle traits that indicate whether that person would make a good partner or not. Meeting someone at a bar, you are forced to rely on first impressions that aren’t always correct. You might reject someone because you don’t like their t-shirt.

Q: In the book, you refer to online dating as the romance equivalent of the Wild West. What did you mean by that?

A: People aren’t always honest online. At work, you can see what other people think of him and probably human resources did some screening as well. Also, if you are sifting through 200 profiles online, you are dealing with a lot of information up front. Just because you like jazz music and he likes rap doesn’t mean you’re incompatible. 

Read the rest. 


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The bigger boobs the better?

August 4th, 2008 by Saskia Vogel

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(image from the London Times

Is it true? Some may say yes. Some may say a nice set of bosoms can fill many voids. They are comfort to some, an aesthetically pleasing curve to others. They are a source of pride.  But the bigger boobs the better?Here are two articles on the subject, but see below for one woman’s perspective on her bazooms.

How to dress for your breasts 

Enhance your cleavage with makeup 

And now, have at it Camilla Long.

I’ve always been thrilled with my 34DDs - let’s just say the conversation rarely flags - but sometimes enough is simply enough. You want to hide them away from prying eyes and spaghetti fingers. (“Oops, sorry, thought that was the… light switch.”) You want to say goodbye for ever to sweaty summer rigging and enormous orthopaedic bras; goodbye to flesh-coloured straps (why, if they’re meant to be invisible, can you always spot them at 50,000 paces?); goodbye, even, just once before I die, to bras altogether.

So, yeah, living with big breasts can be a bore. And, as a DD, I’m nowhere near the crippling turbo-melon category. Those poor women who wake up to find their airways blocked! Unlike them, my breasts do not constitute half my body weight and all of my personality; there are not, at any given time, three old Etonians down there on a charity toboggan run. Still, I’ve had to learn how to handle them (steady, chaps) with due respect.

It has taken 15 years. At first, I hated them. The tricky teens, when everyone is staring and snapping your trainer bra and making you want to die. Then, in my early twenties, I started to love them - perhaps too much. They were out the whole time, public property, a whole new currency, even: there’s not a bouncer in London who won’t let you in for a quick flash (and I have researched this). Then there is later, now, when I’ve finally worked out that covering up at least 1% of the time is more punchy than constantly showing them off. I have learnt to apply the element of surprise.

I have learnt many other things, too. That nobody brushes past you “by mistake”. That martinis are a death trap, because you can lose olives down your cleavage and nothing will make you feel more pig elegant than that. That clay-pigeon shooting is totally out (such a pity, because I do have talent). That high necks are impossible, while low ones make you look like a barmaid. That there’s nothing like a pair of big bangers - “the cavalry”, as a friend calls them - to settle the matter.

I abide by three rules: 1) Getting them fully out is a no-no, even if you’re in the south of France. It’s nothing to do with unsightly saggage - only sluts go topless. 2) Using them in the boardroom is provincial. A girl in a suit with tidemark foundation and big boobs out for all to see is the female equivalent of a short, balding businessman with two mobiles. Just watch the next series of The Apprentice. 3) Never, ever, wish to have small ones. Ever! Even in the face of a tank top. The French say that a woman without breasts is like a bed without a pillow, and they are right. A friend who tried big prosthetics for a day reported that large ones were “very, very fun - everyone perked up when they saw me”.

Case closed.

As for men, never believe them when they say they prefer smaller ones. They’re just trying to be arty, nice to their girlfriends - or there’s something really wrong. (“Sorry, which bit is the breast again?”) Most of them are in denial.

As my friend James insists - he likes “small ones … firm to the touch and the right shape and feel. I only look at large ones to check I haven’t changed my mind”.


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Are you girlfriend material?

July 24th, 2008 by Saskia Vogel

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When guys meet you, what do they see? A buddy? A one night stand? The love of their life? Or a potential girlfriend? After reading these tips, you may discover that the reason you are single/in a reltaionship has a lot to do with the signals you’re sending out. Send out your messages straight and reel in a great catch. (By the way, here are 3 places to find your next boyfriend.)
Be a good listener. Not only to be love to be truly heard, but this will give you great hints on how he likes to be cared for, what his interests are, etc., giving you extra info on him and you r compatibility.

Be considerate and caring. You can’t call all the shots and all conversations will not revolve around you, for one. Second, treating him to a b-day dinner or sending a sweet card when he gets a promotion, or just because, shows him that you care.

Be open to his suggestions, make suggestions of your own. Give and take is the name of the game in relationships. Also, when you do the g&t, it gives you a chance to see if you enjoy yourself with him. Giving suggestions shows you are engaged and allows him to find out more about  you. The more intimacy you build, the more ways he can fall in love with you.

Value yourself and your independence as much as his. Being your own person, not clingy, shows him that you are a secure and confident girl, so the attention you give him is more valuable. You won’t just hold hands at the movies and flirt over dinner with anybody.

Watch what you say. Playing that game where you devalue yourself verbally with a “Really? You want to go out with me?” or “Friday. I’m busy.” (and don’t suggest and alternate date time) attitude may just tell him you’re a-not interested or b-you don’t want to date.  Also, if you say stuff like “I’m not really into relationships right now,” and you really mean “I’d like to go out with you, but I’m in a vulnerable place,” best be honest and go for the second one. Then at least he knows to take it slow…and if he doesn’t…is he the right one?


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What is your love life persona?

July 23rd, 2008 by Saskia Vogel

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I just found this super quiz on dating. Hope you all find it spiffy cool.

The Dating Game

By Margeaux Baulch

Every woman has several different sides to her personality, but when it comes to relationships, which one is running the show? The heart-breaker? The romantic? The crazy, crying nut? to reveal just who your love-struck alter-ego is.


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Funky spunk? Make him taste better!

July 23rd, 2008 by Saskia Vogel

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Your man’s ejaculate is really only made up of 1 percent sperm. The rest is various proteins, vitamins, sugars, salts, cholesterol, and water. It stands to logic that what your man eats will effect how he tastes…and smells in general. (The same goes for you.) If you want you man to taste a little sweeter and better, here are some tips. 1. Cut out or cut down on alcohol, caffeine, nicotine, and other obvious toxins.

2. Drink plenty of water.

3. Eat food that are naturally high in sugar, like papaya cranberry, melons, mangos, apples, and grapes.

4. Eat citrus, especially pineapple.

5. Avoid anything in the cabbage family (especially asparagus), too much red meat, heavy spices (garlic, onions, curry), and junk food.

6. Spices that improve taste are cinnamon, cardamom, and peppermint.

7. Plants high in chlorophyll, like parsley and wheatgrass, also help funky spunk.


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Pheromones are inivisible magic

July 18th, 2008 by Saskia Vogel

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We hear talk about pheromones being these invisible scents we naturally give off that attract or repel partners…but what are they?

A SheKnows article explains it like this:

Pheromones are naturally occurring substances the fertile body excretes externally, conveying an airborne message to trigger a response from the opposite sex of the same species.

Studies have shown that a primal response to pheromones, that little something that happens when you first meet someone, is a great indicator of physical, and even emotional, compatibility. That whole “You’ll know you’d sleep with him in the first 3 seconds of meeting him” is a response to pheromones. But are they an aphrodisiac?

Chemical attraction is no myth; it’s just a question of what that chemical is. According to Dr. Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist at Rutgers University, testosterone is the only true aphrodisiac for both men and women. You can trigger the testosterone by doing novel things together because novelty drives another chemical in the brain, dopamine, which will trigger testosterone and make you feel sexy.

Plenty of products on the market can enhance you natural pheromones. Have a look here for a few product suggestions


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