So you’re a new mother. How will the new baby affect your relationship? SheKnows own Shay Pausa explores the topic of baby, baby daddy, and keeping up the lust and romantic love.

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This picture is worth a 1,000 words. For me those words kinda go….oh, yum. And other variations. (And how cute is he with Gwen? So hot.)Hey if the MILF genre can explode as it did (and believe you me, coming from a editorial background where XXX content was on and around all the time, MILF is totally in overkill, especially when it just means the girl’s hit 25), I think we should get back to the root of the -ILF land of lust.  I nominate Mr. Rossdale as DILF of the month. You ladies have any other lust-worthy dads? I suppose the DILF fantasy is less something Gwen should be worried about and more that primal female thrill of seeing an attractive, awesome, loyal man in action and realizing the search is not futile.

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Let me start off by saying that there is nothing wrong with bringing a life into the world in a home full of love and dedication to the thriving support of that life…at any age.But, will Sarah Palin’s 17-year-old daughter’s pregnancy affect your vote? 

And now for the meat:

Remember when the big thing was virginity? And the media fussed and fumbled about Britney and fumed about Christina…now it was up in arms about Miley Cyrus baring her shoulder and a few other choice naughty photos of the Disney Dream Brand. Now Jamie Lynn Spears and Sarah Palin’s daughter are the teens whose sex life is in total focus. What’s the deal with that? And by deal, I mean, it’s fairly obvious that sex and sexuality are a big part of ANY adolescent’s life. After all, the adolescent’s body is raging with hormones that are turning the darlings into fertile men and women. Of course sexuality and to have or not to have questions about sex are a big deal. It’s easy (and fun for a tabloid lover like me) to follow the trends in media coverage of the the Britneys and Jamie Lynns of the world, but dichotomies aside, when adolescence “strikes” your child… think very carefully about what position you want to take.

We know that extreme conservatism breeds a very naughty underbelly (the Victorian Era, hello) and that abstinence-only education still results in over a million teen pregnancies a year and 40 percent of girls will become pregnant before they turn 20. As mothers and future mothers (and especially if you are a person who enjoys this blog), it would do you a world of good to figure out your position…and figure one out that is sexually sane.

1. Be realistic about your teen.

2. Give them balanced information, both about abstinence and sexual activity.

3. Talk to them about the different kinds of intimacies between two loving people.

4. Talk to your teen about what sex means to them and discuss how your teen might handle certain scenarios where the question of sex may arise.

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If you look at the LA Weekly, my local Village Voice news outlet, the rag is chock full of ads for vaginal rejuvenation. Hm. I’m not one to advocate getting together with your favorite women and using a hand mirror to check yourself out and discuss, but come on. Really? Are our nether bits actually that repulsive? I mean, look at Shunga art. The Japanese erotic master loved a flower V. Or any kind for that matter. Some women’s are baroque, some smooth with slender, thin lips, some with protruding clits, some with little nubs. Mind you, it’s not often you get to see another girl down there…unless you’re looking at erotic content or dating a woman. If any of you are feeling insecure about yourselves, just know we are all different and that ages just like the rest of us. Embrace it. And if you can’t tough luck if you are in Australia, because…”COSMETIC surgery to “rejuvenate” the vagina has been blacklisted by Australian gynaecologists who say women are being injured by the dangerous procedures. ” Read the full article here.

It’s summer, and you’re in full bloom. I bet you’re cranky, hot, and horny. Why not try the classic position for pregnant women: doggie style. Yes indeed. But being summer, have you man get a little creative. Incorporate a mister to spritz lightly on your back as he get busy…or perhaps he can slick his hands with massage oil and give you a little rub down as you come up to ecstasy. Just a thought.

And here’s a little video on how new moms can get their sexy back.

And for you mommies, new and veteran mammas, the Fourth may leave you wishing our country got its independence during a month where you have to wear at least four layers of clothing…but being a mommy can also mean being sexy. Here’s a little video to support that point.

What girl doesn’t want to strengthen her core? In yoga, in pilates…belly dancing…it’s all about the core. These awesome balls develop your very secret core, improving muscle control and making for a stronger grip and possibly a tighter fit. Think of these as free weights for your Kegels. Get your Love Balls here.

Fast forward a few months. Your little one is a tiny bump, and you’re starting to have fantasies about decorating the baby room and naming her after your great-great aunt. There’s a person inside of you! And you don’t want to, uh, knock it loose…or some other unfounded, but very real, paranoia. Well, how do you negotiate sex?

Here’s a great article on sex during pregnancy from Ann Douglas, author of  The Mother of All Pregnancy Books: The Ultimate Guide to Conception, Birth and Everything in Between.

(P.S. The bottom line is if you’re having a low-risk pregnancy, you’re OK to…and boy is that second trimester going to be a doozy!)

Boy or Girl? Older women have a higher chance of having girls because the feeble boy sperm have a harder time negotiating her increasingly hostile body environment. Eat lots of acidic foods if you want a girl, the increased acidity in your body will make it harder for Y-sperm to complete their mission impossible. Ah, the many old wives’ tales of conception…while these are fun to toss around and sometimes seem provable, here’s a little article I found that explores some myths and truths about getting pregnant.