Do you accidentally leak when you sneeze/laugh/etc.? This is quite common when you have just given birth. But it doesn’t have to stay that way and you can prevent it in the first place by strengthening the muscles of your pelvic floor. Like the athletic child/teenager who laid a fine foundation for fine muscular tone as an adult, women can keep their selves taut down there by doing Kegel exercises. Ben wa balls, if you want an toy to use while exercises, are like dumb bells for your sweet bits. Here’s how to do Kegels (from a SheKnows article):

The target area for Kegels is called the pubococcygeus, or PC, and it can be tricky to find. While urinating, try to slow or stop the flow without using the muscles in your abdomen, buttocks, or legs. Concentrate on tightening the muscles around the opening of the vagina, pulling inward and upward.

As with any workout, consistency is the key to success with Kegels.

I always wondered how these female condoms worked. Here’s a video demonstration. (Don’t worry! She uses an anatomical model, not a real woman for the contraceptive demo.)

Let astrology guide your seduction!
The fastest of the bunch. Sex talk is their favorite hobby. They loive flirting and mixing it up.
MALE IN BED: A giver and a taker. He’ll love it if you give him some dirty talk or seductive ear candy.

FEMALE IN BED: She need a little intellectual stimulation to get busy between the sheets. If her brain isn’t aroused, neither is she, but she likes a zipless f**k.

BEST WAY TO TURN ON A GEMINI: Shoulders, arms, hands, and legs are body parts on which to lavish tender strokes.  You’re headed for a bucket of fun with e Gemini. If they make any sound at all, it means you’re doing a-ok…then swtich it up.

Sex Ed isn’t what you learned in high school. Here are a few great links to learning how to make your bedroom time explosive, more intimate and loving, and more exciting.

Learn Tantra. Tantra teaches the totality of life: listening to your body, opening your heart, merging into the space of consciousness. Al and Pala cover topics such as Tantra, relationships, sacred lovemaking, spirituality, and the Kama Sutra.

Oral Sex Classes (NYC).  These classes are the taught by gay male instructors who have real-life experience as well as MEP training on how to give an amazing blowjob.

Relationship Coaching. “We work with clients to create relationships in which they can be self-expressed, confident, radically honest and bold. With the resources, structure and support we provide in the coaching sessions, you will discover how to be fearless in your relationships, sexuality, and connections with others.”

Sexual Health Classes. Planned Parenthood offers free workshops that help you play safe and live healthy.

By the way, building on that sultry pair of stockings I reviewed, our own Aly Walansky just wrote a fine article on choosing the right hosiery for your body type. If you’re going to go, go all the way, and know how to work it!

This is your Friday after school special on “How to Flirt.” This video is surprisingly straightforward with basic, easy to follow tips. The Aussie voice over adds a bit of kitsch. When you’re done watching, maybe it’s one to pass on to the little sis or the daughter?

By the way, Erotica LA is coming up this weekend, so all you in SoCal, make trip to this shopping and education experience non-pareil. I’m really keen in checking out the burlesque workshop:

“Join Kitty Cadillac and Heather West from Cat Moves School of Exotic Arts for this interactive workshop. Develop costume ideas, utilize props and learn sensual movement to create an evening of exotic entertainment. Dive deeper into the art and mystery of strip tease and the lap dance.”

and the erotic role play for couple with the amazing Midori:

“Discover how different forms of Sex Bondage can enhance your relationship. Our sex-positive educator will help you navigate through this intriguing and taboo topic. You�ll learn Hands on Rope Bondage and various techniques to turn up the heat and take trust and intimacy to the next level.”

The wild world of online dating…for all the beasts in the jungle, there are for sure a number of loyal stallions worthy of your love. But how can one find such a creature?The first step is creating your profile to really reflect you. SeXXXyMamacity69 is just never going to attract her Mr. Big, now, is she?

I suppose, number one would be “choose a username that suits you.” WantstohaveBabies36 is probably going to be off-putting,  but something related to your profession or your interests might fly well. If you like hiking, why not TrailMiss? Cheesy, cute, silly. Sounds like an approachable gal.

Next,  apparently, when you have a picture up, your hits go up by like 15 percent. So, choose a pic that will attract the kind of man you are looking for. Go ahead and flatter yourself with a good image, but keep it real, natural, and in a setting that says a lot about you, but not too  much (for privacy reasons, you may not want pictures of your home and what not, but a cozy photo in an armchair wouldn’t hurt). [Apparently, the woman in my mind is a nature-loving, no-nonsense bookworm with a love for updated shabby chic…adjust your profile accordingly ;)] . If you can put up more than one photo, why not let each one tell a bit about you. 25 MySpace-pout shots just don’t really say more than Paris Hilton did with her album.

Lastly, when writing your profile, think of unique details that describe you. How will you set yourself apart? Will it be in your writing style? The vocabulary you use? Unique interests and adjectives? A good rule of thumb is “The first thing you write will be cliche. Toss it out. The second will be better, but still a little generic. The third one, you’ve had to work for, so it’ll probably be the most original.” Be yourself.

And of course, ladies, safety safety safety. Be safe. Don’t give away personal contact info or life details that people who have things that aren’t love in their hearts could use to find you, harass you or other unpleasant realities of this old world. Here are online dating dos and donts.

Our very own sex columnist Brian Josepher wrote an incredibly little article on the G-spot.

Here’s where it is, according to BJ (Oh my!):
Psychosexual therapist, Paula Hall gives these directions: “If you have one - and I mean if, that’s a big if - it’s 1 to 2 inches inside the vagina on the front wall. You should be able to feel it with your finger. If you’re not sexually aroused it may be no bigger than a pea. It’s actually more of a zone than a spot. If you want to explore and find out whether you have one, feel for an area that’s rough, a bit like a walnut, rather than smooth and silky like the rest of the vaginal wall.”

By the way, these are ultrasound images on the subject. Cool, huh? 

Do you ever just want to climb all over your man? Do you get tired when he hoists you up in a fit of passion? Ok, sure. Head to the gym, but in the mean time, here’s a solution. This body swing is quite like a baby harness. It helps you stay up while he’s standing up, freeing up your hands and range of motion for love like you’ve never experienced. Why not make passion easier on yourselves? Get it here.