So, let’s put that plug to use! Here are the prime positions: missionary and doggie. And this is the way to go: make sure that you have plenty of lube and enoough time for foreplay. Whenever engaing in anal, you want to warm up that area considerably so that it is loose and lubricated. Slide it in early on and have sex as usual. You or he may want to give the plug a jiggle or fumble, according to how you respond to anal stimualtion. Have fun, you naughty minx.

We love lube! It’s not cheating, it’s just enhancing the sensations… But this, my dear friends, is not lube, and can sting. 1. Shampoo/Soap/Body wash. It actually dries out your skin, and can bring on yeast infections. If you are in the shower, use a silicone lube, like this one.

2. Food Oil. (Olive, grape seed, etc.) You may want to go all natural and might be like, “Grape seed does wonder for my skin, why not my secret bits?” Well, oil can hold lots of bacteria and the oil will break down condoms. Plus, you’re not saving any money. Commercial lube is generally cheaper than food oils.

3. Crisco. Similar deal to oil: It breaks down condoms. Try Boy Butter instead.

4. Baby oil. Condom, Condom, Condom! It’s just bad for the condom! (Not to mention, it gets bacteria in places where you don’t need any more and can stain fabrics.)5. Spit. Aside from potentially offending your partner, spit dries up way faster than any conventional water-based or silicone lube.

Talking to a lube manufacturer today, he gave me a great little tip on finding out if the lube you’re browsing will irritate you down there… Take a little sample of it and rub it on  your gums.

He said gum tissue is rather similar to the sensitive membranes and tissue of your vagina.

If you don’t have a negative reaction in your mouth, you probably won’t have a reaction in your woo.

Ok, ok I’ve been on about lube a lot, but can you fault a girl for her new favorite erotic discovery? Here’s a little tip from quite the expert on lube:

On your man slather in a dab of silicone-based lube onto your man’s member, then follow with a squirt of water-based lube. (Note: be sure you’re not allergic to glycerin, as this is a common ingredient in water-based lubes.) The sensation makes me think of that ridiculously hot track from Underworld called “Born Slippy” that was featured in the Trainspotting soundtrack. And he tells me he loves it more than words too!

Lube up and enjoy the slip and slide! Get your lube here.

Jenn Ramsey, sex coach who has taught with none other than Nina Hartley and an adult novelty expert, is quite the encyclopedia on sexual matters. She’s been kind enough to let us at She Knows take liberally of her hard-earned insight into the ins, outs, mechanics, romantics and semantics of sex. Her favorite moment of teaching by the way is when the legendary Hartley passed the talking stick over to Jenn during a BJ class, stating that Jenn knew more about it than she did. Yay for teacher!

Our first installment of her wisdom is lube.

I’m probably not the only lady who thought my own moisture was more than enough, but lately, I’ve been noticing that in certain situations, I’m happy to have some bottle wetness handy. And now to Jenn:

Why Lube?

Moisture is essential to any kind of sex—rubbing dry on dry skin will quickly show you how uncomfortable sexual activity can be without it. Moisture prevents micro-abrasions in our most sensitive areas that can happen from sexual friction, as well as heightens sensation. Jenne from Clitical.com illustrated it well when she described her “finger on lip” test… first run your finger over your dry lip, then lick them and try again… and you’ll understand why moisture is so important.

For most of my sexual life, I’d thought (incorrectly) that our own vaginal moisture, or saliva as a second runner up, was enough. Lube is more than just moisture… it’s formulated to be more slick than our natural juices, and to give a bit of padding between surfaces in motion.

Categories of Lube

The amount of information about lube in general is so vast and confusing, I wanted to pare it down to just the essentials

There are basically 3 different kids of lube; below are descriptions of each, with some general tips to round things out.

Oil-based

Oil-based lubes were the first recorded lubes; Egyptians started using olive oil back in the hieroglyphic days. Without better options available, we’ve been reaching for anything slippery, like cooking oil (olive oil or Crisco) and the make-up remover Aboline; all oil-based and all will cause yeast infections in women, and break down latex (destroy condoms and toys).

Water-based

Lube as we know it descended from a cellulose/water combination called Surgilube, released in the 1950s and still common today for “medical applications,” translation, one-time insertion. Astroglide was one of the first lubes designed just for sexual play back in the 1950s, though most lube (and sexual health) studies have been in more recent years. What about KY-Jelly, you ask? It was designed to aid with medical examinations, and it tends to gum up quickly when used for sex play; though KY has designed actual sexual lubes since.

Silicone

Silicone is clear, thinner, and feels… slick. If you just touch the cap of the lube bottle, you’ll feel how slippery it is without even having to put it on your skin. Though it tends to be more expensive, a little bit goes a long way, so your bottle will last twice as long as a similar-sized bottle of water-based lube.

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Adam and Eve selection of lube includes:

Adam & Eve Signature Lube

Essentials Sylk Lubricant

I-D Glide Lubricant 16 oz