Reality shows like “so you think you can dance” is making dancing sexy again! Not since Ricky Martin was living la vida loca, was dance so popular. Can you believe that was a decade ago already? Yikes! Dancing as a language between a couple can be very sensual. Whether you’re on a first date or married, taking a dance class together can be fun and hot!If you’re on a date, dancing allows to break the ice, get a little closer without the proverbial pressure and discover each others rhythmic chemistry. If you’re married, you get to spice things up with style and work on some moves together so when you go to that next family party, you can take over the dance floor!

Try taking a dance lesson from one of the following three dance styles.

Salsa, Tango, Swing.

Also, try Belly dancing!

This is the age old question when it comes to romance, and it always will be. Should you follow your heart or listen to your thoughts? Whether your deciding on dating someone or your on the verge of a break up, this can be one of the toughest decisions you make. Is your “duty to your heart” as Mulan once said? Or, will you receive more peace of mind by weighing the pros and cons? But really, can you make a decision without the other?

You need to consider both in order to make decisions. That being said, I am a hopeless romantic. My advice on this one is… Follow your heart…Sometimes more than the mind can rationalize, the heart simply knows best. I say you find true happiness when you follow your heart, and if you do here are some tips for building a successful relationship.

How do you deal with your feelings about your partner’s previous romantic relationships, especially when they remain friends? Are you feeling super-irked whenever your boyfriend mentions a friend that he once used to date? And even though you have met his ex, who is in a seemingly happy relationship, you still can’t help feeling a little jealous and insecure whenever they talk? Once feelings of insecurity and jealousy surface, it’s a short jump to negative and self destructive behavior. These emotions can cause major stress to your otherwise healthy relationship. Here’s some advice on how to snap out of it.

1. Talk to your man. Let him know the emotions you feel when this person(s) comes up. He should be saying all the things to reassure you that there is no need to worry.

2. Let go and trust him. Realize you can’t control him.

3. More importantly, realize that it doesn’t matter who your partner dated. Without these previous experiences, he would not be the man you love today. All of our previous relationships color who we are in our current relationships.

4. Love them for who they are, not who you want them to be. You’ll be stronger as a couple and have fewer wrinkles.

Read this for some more general tips on how to be stress free!

Even political couples need to show their love too. Now if only California can win a federal bailout on Prop 8, then we can group hug!

In “Relationship Sabotage, The walls that get in our way, and how to break them down…” Advice.Love Detour.com gives us a very good breakdown of what the challenges are when facing this kind of counterproductive behavior in a relationship. LA Love Coach writes, “It’s all about self worth and why “this great catch” would want this “imperfect human being”. Not only is this self-sabotaging behavior destructive to the relationship, it’s hurtful to both parties and gets in the way of allowing the relationship to flourish”. I have personally been in a situation like this where the person I was dating kept sabotaging the relationship because they’re self esteem was very low. This behavior can sometimes be an obstacle you don’t get over. Read the rest of the article to get more information on how to better deal in this type of situation.

Ever wonder how that sweet man or woman could have ever said such hurtful things just a moment ago? One minute, you are whispering sweet words of affection, smiling, everything is wonderful - amazing even…. A few moments later, something is said or done and the next thing you know, you and your partner are screaming and berating each other, By the time either of you figure out that this wasn’t your intention - it’s too late.

“Many of us take a fight-or-flight approach to conflict, sometimes only to make our point stick. You and your future partner are on the same side of the same team, which is difficult to remember when you are in a heated argument” says Nancy Pina, author of How To Create Relationship Success.

You must approach sensitive issues with sensitivity. You must approach each other with love and never forget what’s important - You love each other.
Pina says, “Each has the responsibility to resolve issues around emotional buttons.”

Read the rest.

Ps. The faster you get past the conflict, the sooner you get to the hot make-up sex.

Wondering how to restart the sparks in your relationship? This video outlines a new therapist-created method. Enjoy!

One of She Knows’ media partners, Cosmopolitan wrote the perfect article on keeping the romance alive…especially when you hit that year, year and a half routine. These 23 tips will make sure you get butterflies again!

1. Share a Secret Code

Pick a word that’s likely to come up occasionally in conversation (heat, midnight, bedroom, whipped cream…) and agree that every time someone uses it, you have to touch — anything from a kiss to a lingering thigh stroke under the table.

2. Transform Dinner into Dining

That midweek post-grind meal you devour together? Make it register off the mush-o-meter with some tiny adjustments to the atmosphere. “Pull out your nicest dishes and light a couple of candles, even if you’re just having a mushroom pizza,” suggests Gregory Godek, author of 1001 Ways to Be Romantic (Casablanca Press, 2000). “It’s the mood, not the food, that sets a romantic scene. So stick a bouquet of daisies from the corner store in the center of the table, lower the lights, and turn up Enrique Iglesias or Bessie Smith. You could even conveniently forget the utensils so you have an excuse to feed each other.”

3. Get Swept Off Your Feet

Make up your own tango moves and groove with your guy for 15 minutes while you wait for dinner. Pop in the Marc Anthony CD, then press your pelvises together, entwine your legs, and twist and twirl around the living room. “Slow dancing is so intimate,” says Godek. “The way you stand hip-to-hip, block out the world, and sway to each other’s rhythms … now you’re really cookin’.”

Read the rest.

When you think of thrilling your man’s body…what do you think of? Stroking his inner thighs, playing with his hair, kissing his neck…right? Well, ever give a thought to his 5 little piggies?Us girls get spoiled on a regular basis at the nail salon. Why not try some of those foot care tricks on your man? It’ll be a new pleasure for him…and totally surprise him. It’s not really a “man” thing to do.

Try this: run him a shallow bath of warm water with some aromatic salts.

Wash his feet and give him a light foot massage.

Use your pumice stone to smooth the balls and heels of his feet.

If he’s man enough, trim and shape his toe nails.

He’ll love it, but watch out. You may have created a foot-pleasure monster.

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This picture is worth a 1,000 words. For me those words kinda go….oh, yum. And other variations. (And how cute is he with Gwen? So hot.)Hey if the MILF genre can explode as it did (and believe you me, coming from a editorial background where XXX content was on and around all the time, MILF is totally in overkill, especially when it just means the girl’s hit 25), I think we should get back to the root of the -ILF land of lust.  I nominate Mr. Rossdale as DILF of the month. You ladies have any other lust-worthy dads? I suppose the DILF fantasy is less something Gwen should be worried about and more that primal female thrill of seeing an attractive, awesome, loyal man in action and realizing the search is not futile.