A reader sent me this pic of sex positions by the number, which made me think that maybe I would have been better at math had it been taught by these numbers…if you’re still math-phobic, here’s something for the literati.

I think this is enough said on this week’s sex positions. Sweet and gentle rocking.

So, let’s put that plug to use! Here are the prime positions: missionary and doggie. And this is the way to go: make sure that you have plenty of lube and enoough time for foreplay. Whenever engaing in anal, you want to warm up that area considerably so that it is loose and lubricated. Slide it in early on and have sex as usual. You or he may want to give the plug a jiggle or fumble, according to how you respond to anal stimualtion. Have fun, you naughty minx.

Tear it up! With Halloween coming, there are a ton of inexpensive fishnets in stores. This is taking a small inspiration from a common porn trope, but it seems apropos and may be quite the turn on for your man. Buy a pair of inexpensive fishnets, forget your underwear, wear a skirt, and let your man tear through the netting to get what he wants. Needless to say, I recommend an alfresco or clandestine quickie. Like strawberries and dark chocolate: a perfect pairing!

It sounds like a painting hanging in the National Gallery, but it’s a lovely way to get real close to your honey and kiss until you realize your prince will never turn into a frog. Here’s how:

Find a sturdy chair and have him sit.

Straddle him and embrace him with your legs and arms.

His face is easy access, so talk dirty, whisper sweet nothings, stroke his cheeks, kiss his neck…you know.

Ideally the chair allows you to touch your feet to the floor for easy movement and to control how deep you let him in.

Enjoy! I think it’s the ultimate take charge “I Love You” position…and we need that kind of thing come autumn.

Is a short spell intended celibacy the secret to better sex? To breaking a mundane routine? Read Colleen Oakley’s story for the dish on what happens with 30 days of no nookie.

30 Days Without Sex

 When I told my boyfriend I wanted to give up sex for 30 days, he hooted with laughter. But the process was anything but funny.

“So when you say ‘no sex’ for 30 days, what does that mean, exactly?”

I’m on the phone with Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of Sex Detox, which suggests stepping away from the hot stuff for a month to revive a sex life that’s grown yawn-inducing or otherwise “toxic.”

I wouldn’t call the sex I have with my boyfriend, Fred, “toxic”: We’ve had a healthy amount with lots of texture (from start-the-week-off-right sex to the Wednesday-night reconnectors to a few all-day Saturday sessions). But after a year-and-a-half, even a good thing can feel routine. Why not try something that promises to make sex better — even if it means not having it at all?

In his nearly 10 years of counseling bedroom-challenged couples, Kerner has found that taking sex off the table helps couples focus on aspects of the relationship they never paid attention to before. “Most things that happen — or don’t happen — during sex have nothing to do with sex,” he says. Read the rest.

And if the toy sale isn’t enough inspiration and you feel a little lost about  the ins and outs of goodies in the bedroom, check out our blog archive on Position of the Week and Fun with Toys. That’ll be enough to inspire some hardcore summ-erotica.

All right, cowpokes, you know how to ride your man looking into his baby blues. Did you know that swinging around so he’s looking at your back can be a visually and physically stimulating treat? He gets in at a different angle, like doggie-style, but you’re doing the does that amek him hot to trot, with an unparalleled view of your behind.Also, how about some info about sizzling exercises to improve your sex life?

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It’s summer, and you’re in full bloom. I bet you’re cranky, hot, and horny. Why not try the classic position for pregnant women: doggie style. Yes indeed. But being summer, have you man get a little creative. Incorporate a mister to spritz lightly on your back as he get busy…or perhaps he can slick his hands with massage oil and give you a little rub down as you come up to ecstasy. Just a thought.

You’re tired, the kids are driving you nuts…try this position.

Lay flat on your stomach with your legs together. Have your man rub your neck, shoulders, back, massaging the tension out of your body. Using a little lube, he should massage your buttocks, slowly opening you up for insertion. You’ll feel extra tight to him and he’ll be hitting you in all your sweet spots.