Aren’t you glad this aren’t didn’t start out “5 ways to put the ‘ho’ in hohoho”? I was tempted… as it’s that time of year where the puns sound punnier, the sweaters more elaborate, and normally cheesy sentiments fill everyone with good cheer. So let’s take all that happy holidays and the spirit of giving and put it into the bedroom, shall we? There’s no reason eggnog should be the only thing full of spice!

1.’Tis the season for a quickie!

Between family obligations and Secret Santa sneakiness, sex may be the last thing on your naughty or your nice list. On the nice side, bust out your organizer and pencil in some alone time with your man. For the busiest of the busy, the bedroom may be out of the question. Get naughty by stealing cheeky kisses, squeezes, and more while wrapping presents, just before the folks turn up for dinner, well, whenever the fancy strikes! Read the rest.

Sex advice couple Dan and Jennifer ask, “Can swinger relationships, or open relationships, REALLY work or are they just a recipe for disaster?” What do you think She Knows readers? I want to hear from you, and don’t leave anything out!

Check out this list from the frisky.com of 100 qualities your boyfriend should posses. Kudos to Amelia for compiling this thoughtful list. Well She Knows readers, how many of these qualities that matter to you does your man posses? Amanda Writes, “My Next Boyfriend…

1. …will not cheat on me.
2. …will recycle, donate to a cause, volunteer, and otherwise be a contributing member to society’s well-being.
3. …won’t put others down to make himself feel better.
4. …will treat everyone with respect.
5. …will have a job.
6. …will not smoke pot.
7. …will talk when the need arises versus trying to put it off until later. Read the rest here!

Here are some love tips on how to motivate him to become the man of your dreams!

Reality shows like “so you think you can dance” is making dancing sexy again! Not since Ricky Martin was living la vida loca, was dance so popular. Can you believe that was a decade ago already? Yikes! Dancing as a language between a couple can be very sensual. Whether you’re on a first date or married, taking a dance class together can be fun and hot!If you’re on a date, dancing allows to break the ice, get a little closer without the proverbial pressure and discover each others rhythmic chemistry. If you’re married, you get to spice things up with style and work on some moves together so when you go to that next family party, you can take over the dance floor!

Try taking a dance lesson from one of the following three dance styles.

Salsa, Tango, Swing.

Also, try Belly dancing!

This is the age old question when it comes to romance, and it always will be. Should you follow your heart or listen to your thoughts? Whether your deciding on dating someone or your on the verge of a break up, this can be one of the toughest decisions you make. Is your “duty to your heart” as Mulan once said? Or, will you receive more peace of mind by weighing the pros and cons? But really, can you make a decision without the other?

You need to consider both in order to make decisions. That being said, I am a hopeless romantic. My advice on this one is… Follow your heart…Sometimes more than the mind can rationalize, the heart simply knows best. I say you find true happiness when you follow your heart, and if you do here are some tips for building a successful relationship.

How do you deal with your feelings about your partner’s previous romantic relationships, especially when they remain friends? Are you feeling super-irked whenever your boyfriend mentions a friend that he once used to date? And even though you have met his ex, who is in a seemingly happy relationship, you still can’t help feeling a little jealous and insecure whenever they talk? Once feelings of insecurity and jealousy surface, it’s a short jump to negative and self destructive behavior. These emotions can cause major stress to your otherwise healthy relationship. Here’s some advice on how to snap out of it.

1. Talk to your man. Let him know the emotions you feel when this person(s) comes up. He should be saying all the things to reassure you that there is no need to worry.

2. Let go and trust him. Realize you can’t control him.

3. More importantly, realize that it doesn’t matter who your partner dated. Without these previous experiences, he would not be the man you love today. All of our previous relationships color who we are in our current relationships.

4. Love them for who they are, not who you want them to be. You’ll be stronger as a couple and have fewer wrinkles.

Read this for some more general tips on how to be stress free!

So you and your boyfriend just broke up, your probably in a great deal of heart ache and pain. I understand. I have been there too. I am not going to go on about the pain you feel, because I know that you already know it all too well…but there is hope. Trying to get your ex back is not as impossible it may sometimes seem. However, when charting your course of action to win him back, you must also consider the dont’s so you stand a chance. Sometimes when two people part it makes them stronger. If he’s the one that ended the relationship, here are 5 dont’s to keep in mind when you’re trying to win him back:

1) Calling your ex several times a day

You’re only going to drive them further away. They need space. You will benefit from a little space too.

2) Text messaging and emailing constantly (Text Message Terrorism)

 Again, avoid contact. At least for a few days. Giving him space allows him to miss you too. He will then start to wonder, “Hey, why isn’t she calling?”

3) Constantly checking your email and voice mail to see if he called.

This will only depress you more. Of course you’re going to check. But you must set some rules for yourself. Like, “I’ll only check once a day” versus constantly checking and then not going out because you’re afraid you’re going to miss a call or email.

4) Feeling urges to spy on them

If he finds out, this will virtually guarantee the relationship is over - Be warned!

5) Endlessly rehearsing what you should have said or what you will say if you bump into them

Honestly, we all do this - But it’s not good for your self-esteem. It will only keep you thinking non-stop about the failures of the relationship. It will drive you crazy!

*Bonus tip - NO binge eating for comfort (Trust me, that comfort will only go so far, like your waistline!

With the economy as such where spending money on a big trip isn’t exactly realistic, it’s time to get creative and reinvent the weekend getaway. Just because you can’t fly to Paris doesn’t mean you can’t be romantic and take a drive to that little French town two hours from the city and make a weekend of it, strolling through Main st.? Go on a a weekend getaway with your love, preferably somewhere neither of you have ever been, whether it’s a cabin, a new city or some beach town, pack up some unmentionables (don’t forget candles!) and take a drive to a nearby destination and play tourist. It will make you feel like newlyweds! Once My boyfriend and I missed a flight and had to wait the entire day for the next plane out. We made the most of our day by visiting tourist sights we never really get to enjoy, getting pampered at the spa, trying new restaurants according to the theme of the weekend, and we ended up having one of the best times ever!

So, there an trend in the adult world: horror porn. I love it. As a lifelong fan of the gothic, slasher films, and, well, also a connoiseur of the erotic, this seems a happy, vampy match. Coming on up to Halloween, you may want to consider unleashing your inner vamp and exploring the social anxieties that got the Victorians all faint and flustered. Get out your best role-playing abilities and put those sexy costumes to good use with a night in at your manor!

Can cheating kill you? Researchers have found that not only can cheating damage your relationship (duh), but it can send your stress levels through the roof!

Catherine Northam, a counselor for Relate, outlined some of the main causes of stress and double dipping, shall we say.

“You want to be together with the person you’re having the affair with, but you have to go to great lengths to set up times for when you can be together,” she said. She added that the fear of discovery is also a stress trigger.

Her observations follow research by the Italian Society for the Study of Migraines which identified a higher instance of the potentially fatal headaches among those having an affair.