(hand-made wooden toys from NobEssence) 

“Ecobabes might be a city species, but while I let you sit in the same silence that quieted our car, I’ll tell you that being an ecosexual isn’t just for college kids, humpy UC Berkeley law professors or PR flacks trying to sex up climate change. Anyone can green up their sex toy collection, have eco-friendly sex, and even with all those toxic sex toys, make a positive impact on their orgasms, their conscience and — yes — the environment.”

Violet Blue (left) wrote this in a fantastic article in the San Francisco Gate about going green in the bedroom. Seems to be an increasing trend. Sex toy manufacturers, in fact, are going greener by making better quality products that last longer.

Well, Violet tells us all about greening you sex life with a few helpful hints.

What will the Japanese think of next? Next time your man is busy playing Guitar Hero, thank your lucky stars they video game gods haven’t thought of this…wait…that might actually be quite fun when you get down to it…especially if you find yourself, uh, sexually challenged. Grab your air partner and Rock On!

Did the myth that men are insatiable lust machines turn us into super-charged sex fiends? And what to do about your man’s sex drive?There’s a myth about men I intend to dispel: They are not sex machines. All the girls I know have or have had the same complaint: They want to get laid more than their man wants to put out. The common thread with these girls (22 to 36-year-olds if you’re wondering) is a chapter of their sexual education that went something like this: “Boys want to jump on anything that moves at any time, so watch out. Give them an inch and they’ll take a mile.” And from this lesson, we, not them, grew up to be the insatiable ones. Read the rest here.

Our intrepid She Knows sexperts keep on finding ways to makes things a little hotter and better in the bedroom (from Sexual Sins to the 8 Things No One Tells). Jennifer Benjamin just came up with one move for every year you earned until you could incorporate champagne into your bedroom play.

 Here are the first two…you know, because I’m a tease like.

Back in high school, you probably had rules for how far you’d go: under the shirt, over the pants, and so on. Well, the teenage you was on to something. “It can be pleasurable torture to play with each other over your underwear, teasing and stroking through the fabric,” says sex coach Patti Britton, Ph.D. “You’re building up the anticipation, so when you finally do have skin-on-skin contact, it’ll be that much more explosive and exciting.”

But I won’t leave you hanging so read the full 21 here.

What is in a sex toy? As a consumer, do we really know what they’re made of? Well, HolisticWisdom.com has done a ton of research and in this installment of “Sex Toy Materials,” they give you the skinny on CyberSkin. Read on!

CyberSkin™, Futurotic, Ultra-Realistic, Soft Skin
Different Names For A Similar Skin Like Material

Thermal plastic variations make up all kinds of trade marked lines such as CyberSkin™, Futurotic, Ultra-Realistic, Soft Skin and many others. Toys made from this material become warm with use and are the closest thing to skin-to-skin sensation you’ll find in a sex toy.  These products work best when used with the included powder and lubricant which has been specially formulated to work with them.  Corn starch and a soft cloth may also be used to bring the toy back to life.  (Do not use Talcum powder as talcum powder has been implicated as a possible cause of ovarian cancer.) These materials are extremely sensitive and should be cleaned with warm water and a mild soap.

CyberSkin is also more durable than latex, it can be used in many more and interesting ways, such as cock rings, eggs, and even human-looking robots!

If you decide to purchase a CyberSkin (or similar) product, it is important to stress the proper care of them. CyberSkin is VERY porous and tends to discolor and tear easily. After use, clean your toy thoroughly with a mild antibacterial soap and, as with latex, do not use alcohol-based or household cleansers as they will damage the material. Once cleaned, allow your CyberSkin product to dry and apply a light coating of either cornstarch or fine talcum powder. This will prevent discoloration and protect your toy when not in use.

Materials that are very porous, such as Cyberskin, Futurotic, Senso etc. are not really able to be fully sanitized, this if you are concerned about STDs or other cleaning issues it is recommended that a condom with water base lube be used.

One final precaution is to ONLY USE WATER BASED LUBRICANTS with CyberSkin sex toys! Silicone or any petroleum or oil-based lubricant will destroy CyberSkin.

What kind of body would you have? What fantasies would you explore? At Red Light Center, you can live out any and every fantasy. Heck, you can even go shopping for your favorite novelties in “real” stores. (Real products, 3D virtual space.) Imagine the anonymity of a chat room, but with your dream bod. Some people say it’s a great way to explore and open up, others may consider it real sex (ergo, cheating if you are coupled.) What do you think about avatar sex in a virtual reality universe?

On Denise Richard’s E! TV show “It’s Complicated,” Party Gal’s Miyoko Fujimori demonstrated some pole dance basics for the film and TV star and her friends. It was a good time had by all, and gave us some great tips on how to wow our partner with just a chair and some hot moves. Here’s a video that shows some simple, hot moves for an at home girlie show.

I found this excerpt from a book on seduction for men, “An Introduction to Using Kino.” You know the type: the people who really got into Neil Strauss’ “The Game” and are totally working on their…game. Really, improving your game is a way to get more female tail, but isn’t that kind of a limited goal.Here’s the “Dicknotist” (as he calls himself) writing about touch:

The Dicknotist writes:
When I think of touch, I imagine that my hands are like paintbrushes plastering my emotions onto her body. Call me the Jackson Pollack of seduction: I paint her arms her arms and torso now so that I can sprinkle some more on her face later…with my other special brush. So, when first talking to a girl, I will often just lightly touch her outer arms and torso with my fingers as I’m talking to her. I see it as expressive: you touch her as you talk to emphasize important points. That touch is more subtle and friendly, aimed at just making her comfortable and more trusting. During high points in the interaction, however, your touch should become more appreciative.

Touch serves two purposes: to emphasize what you’re saying to her and to appreciate her. An example of appreciation could be that in talking to her, she reveals that she works as a nurse. That immediately peaks your interest as your mom was a nurse and you realize the resiliency and compassion necessary for the job. Rather than just telling her how awesome that is, you should also touch her arm and hold it there a few seconds longer than usual and perhaps even stroke it.

Expressive touch is like a period: light and quick. Appreciative touch is like an exclamation point, lasting a good 2-3 seconds. Yet the point isn’t for you to have this in your head while talking to a woman but to give you a context for which touch can amplify and supercharge your game.

When you touch her, touch her as if you’re already making love to her. Cup your hand as you touch her back and cup the back of her shoulder blades. Don’t forget her sensitive spots, including her inner arms, behind her knees, the skin fold on the other side of her elbow. Later on in the interaction, touching her neck, ears, thighs, breasts will amplify her desire. Don’t be afraid to graze her breasts! Graze them now so you can glaze them later.

A friend of mine used to say that when the Battle of the Sexes and the mating game in the bar scene would get him down, he’d think about how even the tiniest fruit fly and largest mammal probably have the exact same feeling as when us humans climax. Isabella Rosselini is finding herself at the center of animal’s mating and will give us a few fun facts on porn in nature as only she can do. Check it out on the Sundance Channel.

You’re tired, the kids are driving you nuts…try this position.

Lay flat on your stomach with your legs together. Have your man rub your neck, shoulders, back, massaging the tension out of your body. Using a little lube, he should massage your buttocks, slowly opening you up for insertion. You’ll feel extra tight to him and he’ll be hitting you in all your sweet spots.