1. Wear easy access clothing so he can slip his and or…under your cotton.2. Make friends with sweat. Your pheromones are stronger and that glisten is irresistible. But, be sure to stay fresh!

3. Take it slow. Your probably tired, feeling a little lethargic. Time to work a little tantra and focus on the subtle, soft, probing motions to work your way up to climax.

4. Play with ice! Use a glass toy that’s been in the freezer for a bit or play with a fun toy like the Icegasm (like a DIY vibrating popsicle) to contrast the white hot weather.

5. Bask. You worked up quite a sweat…now relax and enjoy the post-orgasmic thrill.

On the subject of romance and connection, the Maori in New Zealand have a practice called hongi, where by two people sit with their noses touching and share a breath. Like the practice of tantra that helps you and your man unite as one through soft touching and merging your erotic energies. Listen to this Maori woman speak about togetherness and oneness and think about how powerful this can be between you and your lover as a precursor to sex and to develop your intimacy.

The inside of his thigh, his earlobe, his neck…yes, we know to touch, scratch, nibble and nuzzle here, but why? Here are other places to thrill your man with your touch with a “why” straight from the tantric source.

One of the big “whys” with varied touch all over the body is to spread the energy of his arousal around the body…so it doesn’t stay focused in the genitals…creating a deeper, more connected sensual experience. Here are a few tips from tantra expert Suzie Heumann’s article “New Ways to Touch Him“:

1. Run your fingertips gently over his eyes, starting from the center and moving outward. Our eye lids a super sensitive and rarely do we think of touching them. Men are very visual so their eyes take in a lot of their world. This kind of touch evokes love, caring, and a soothing tenderness that puts a man into purring mode.

2. Brush his ecstatic sexual energy up from his genitals, past his belly to his heart area with one hand while lovemaking. This will spread his pleasure throughout his body and help him master his excitement. Moving the sexual energy into a man’s heart is where YOU want it and where he will want it to prolong his pleasure. Very Tantric!

3. Find a small child’s blow-up swimming pool, put down a tarp and get out some older towels, braid your hair if it’s long, heat up three cups of olive oil, put one to two cups in the bottom of the pool, undress and the two of you get in. Add more warm oil if needed later and proceed to rub your body over every part of his! This will cover 99 places to touch and then some - over the top fun!

4. Rub his belly in gentle circles, with one of your free hands, as you pleasure him. This will heighten his pleasure and remind him to deep breathe into his belly. You want him to do this because it will spread his erotic energy and sloooooow him down!

5. When kissing, suck on his lower lip deeply. In Tantric practice the lower lip on the man provides a direct channel to his sexual organ’s excitement.