Do you accidentally leak when you sneeze/laugh/etc.? This is quite common when you have just given birth. But it doesn’t have to stay that way and you can prevent it in the first place by strengthening the muscles of your pelvic floor. Like the athletic child/teenager who laid a fine foundation for fine muscular tone as an adult, women can keep their selves taut down there by doing Kegel exercises. Ben wa balls, if you want an toy to use while exercises, are like dumb bells for your sweet bits. Here’s how to do Kegels (from a SheKnows article):

The target area for Kegels is called the pubococcygeus, or PC, and it can be tricky to find. While urinating, try to slow or stop the flow without using the muscles in your abdomen, buttocks, or legs. Concentrate on tightening the muscles around the opening of the vagina, pulling inward and upward.

As with any workout, consistency is the key to success with Kegels.

1. Wear easy access clothing so he can slip his and or…under your cotton.2. Make friends with sweat. Your pheromones are stronger and that glisten is irresistible. But, be sure to stay fresh!

3. Take it slow. Your probably tired, feeling a little lethargic. Time to work a little tantra and focus on the subtle, soft, probing motions to work your way up to climax.

4. Play with ice! Use a glass toy that’s been in the freezer for a bit or play with a fun toy like the Icegasm (like a DIY vibrating popsicle) to contrast the white hot weather.

5. Bask. You worked up quite a sweat…now relax and enjoy the post-orgasmic thrill.

Our own SheKnows blogger from Alytude gets intimate about her favorite things! Numero Uno: The Rabbit.

How I wish I had a retractable heart. It would make the gauntlet of love so much more simple and pain-free. So while I dream of being able to retract certain sentiments, I’ve kept myself company with this super-cute toy. While I wander the city (this week it’s Santa Barbara) in search of the perfect something (this week it’s a t-shirt), my little buddy from AdamEve.com takes up one pocket and a bullet-sized space in my panties. I don’t know how I feel about vibe-ing in public, but I can see how the retractable cord function might be stimulating for couples playing sexy games at parties. If only it were remote controlled. The best thing about the product is how adorable it is. And if you like bullets, this is a good one. Meanwhile, I’m drafting a letter to the toy company:Dear Cal Exotics,

I like your retractable heart massager very much, but more than an orgasm, I need a massage and an easy way to retract my heart from not-quite-right-romance. I know your product designer isn’t Santa Claus or a genie, but if you could devise a product that would keep my emotions on a leash, running around with a bullet in my pocket would be much more fun.

Yours Sincerely,

Horny with Heartache 

Our very own sex columnist Brian Josepher wrote an incredibly little article on the G-spot.

Here’s where it is, according to BJ (Oh my!):
Psychosexual therapist, Paula Hall gives these directions: “If you have one - and I mean if, that’s a big if - it’s 1 to 2 inches inside the vagina on the front wall. You should be able to feel it with your finger. If you’re not sexually aroused it may be no bigger than a pea. It’s actually more of a zone than a spot. If you want to explore and find out whether you have one, feel for an area that’s rough, a bit like a walnut, rather than smooth and silky like the rest of the vaginal wall.”

By the way, these are ultrasound images on the subject. Cool, huh? 

Just as fluttery and tingly as it sounds for new paramours and seasoned lovers. He stands. She lays on her back on a surface of a good height to align their sweet spots. She lifts her pelvis up (he can support her too with his hands) and drives deeply inside of her. Spread legs wide or hook her knees around his arms as pleasure deems fit. She’s floating and not just because the angle and ability to go deep is breathtaking. Metamorphize your Tuesday night love with the butterfly!

Ok, ok I’ve been on about lube a lot, but can you fault a girl for her new favorite erotic discovery? Here’s a little tip from quite the expert on lube:

On your man slather in a dab of silicone-based lube onto your man’s member, then follow with a squirt of water-based lube. (Note: be sure you’re not allergic to glycerin, as this is a common ingredient in water-based lubes.) The sensation makes me think of that ridiculously hot track from Underworld called “Born Slippy” that was featured in the Trainspotting soundtrack. And he tells me he loves it more than words too!

Lube up and enjoy the slip and slide! Get your lube here.

A 10 hour flight home?! What is a girl to do without a few sexy travel tips? Well, my darlings, an airliner can be quite the little hot spot for clandestine love. Sure, we can all imagine squishing into the often too awful for words potties they have (make sure you wipe down the sink and other surfaces!), but you can be more creative. Fly first class or ask for a window seat. Liners like BA have quite private cubicles where the seats slip down into comfy beds that provide ample opportunity for kisses in hidden paces. Not flying first? Discreet “back of the class” fondling never hurt all those people knocked out during the long haul. And if you are lucky, maybe you’ll have a row to yourself. Though I’m quite the advocate of unbridled pleasure, tact and discretion above all things applies to more adventurous, public encounter. Happy travels!

What girl doesn’t want to strengthen her core? In yoga, in pilates…belly dancing…it’s all about the core. These awesome balls develop your very secret core, improving muscle control and making for a stronger grip and possibly a tighter fit. Think of these as free weights for your Kegels. Get your Love Balls here.

Did you just move into a new place? Do you feel like your relationship has everything and the kitchen sink? Well, loyal She Knows readers, here’s one that’ll pop the cork on that housewarming happy buzz.

The basic idea is that you get lifted up onto a domestic surface - the kitchen counter, the drier (especially if it’s running) - and he stands. You wrap your legs around him and fill yourselves with the joy of your new place, your new remodeling job…whatever. It’s your relationship, your apartment and it comes with everything and the kitchen sink.