Relax Your Way to Orgasm

Did you know that when you come the part of your brain that processes stress and anxiety effectively shuts down? For men, some stress can boost the libido, but for us R and R is that way to go.That said, do you ever lose an orgasm mid-way? Well, Dr. Ian Kerner writes in a Men’s Health article, “Unlike a man, a woman can lose an orgasm even as it’s happening. As her brain is shutting down, any sort of change will wake her up again. Keep doing exactly what you’re doing.” Though this is advice to men, it may illuminate why sometimes your orgasm can hang in a delicate balance when you have a million things on your mind.

This article suggests a number of tips for men related to relaxation and orgasm, to take your O into your own hands, have some tricks up your sleeve to relax.

Think of orgasm as meditation. If indeed our brain does shut down a certain part, then perhaps you want to have a “happy place” you go to when you’re climbing towards orgasm. It may be harder to jolt you out of happy place than the room where the dirty laundry is piling up.

Take some time to unwind. Relax yourself in preparation for sex. A hot bath with lavender oil might just work every time.

Reconnect with intimate times. Your libido might just get a kick from looking at holiday photos or snaps of happy, unstressed times with your partner.

Talk about your stress or anxiety with your partner, a good friend or a therapist. Whichever works best for you.

The bottom line is, I’m assuming you’re still attracted to him but the million-strong to-do list is driving you to tears. Sometimes, counterintuitive though it seems, slowing down and taking time is the best way to get results in the stressful hours.