How to be Kinky

One woman’s flogger and leather is another one’s oral sex. Being kinky is completely relative to what (and who) you are comfortable with. Here are four simple tips on how to unleash your kinky side.

1. Trust. The cornerstone for any relationship, right? When diving into your personal realm of kinky, trusting the person who you will journey with is paramount.

2. Communication. So, you got trust down, now for communication. Sit down, have a chat at a good, relaxed time about what you’re interested in. Cozy up to you partner and share a few fantasies, express how much you’d like to explore them with him. Listen to your partner’s reactions carefully. Be aware that your suggestions might be testing his boundaries, so be patient. Listen with an open mind and heart. In the bedroom, if you’re trying something new, get feedback from each other while you’re in the act. (”A little to the left,” “not so hard,” or “slower” can work miracles.) In the afterglow, check back with each other on how it was for both of you.

3. Playing Fair. Don’t expect your partner to do all the needing and twisting if you’re not going to take a few leaps yourself. Also, remember pleasure is a two-way street…make sure they’re enjoying themselves too.

4. Patience. Like I said, you may have suggested something really wild to your partner that they are having a hard time digesting…from using a flogger to trying a new position, depending on their bedroom comfort levels. Listen to their concerns and know that with the trust you share and your good communication, your sex life will progress and develop as you continue to meet each other’s needs.

Not such kinky advice, I know, but the basics are the basics.

Here are a couple toys that are bound to up the kink level in bed: