Bad Day, Great Sex

What does a girl do on those days where she feels less than faboo, but more than willing? Uncomfortable “femme” days, office stress or body pain can really impact how sexy you feel, but, as you well know, that doesn’t necessarily put a damper on desire. Here are a few tips to turn make a truce between the part of you that says “don’t touch me” and the other that begs “c’mere tiger.”

Dilemma 1: Cramps

Prevention: When it’s that time, take care of yourself. Visit a yoga class, snuggle up with your hot water bottle, take some Midol, go for a walk. However you make yourself feel better, do it before jumping into a seductive goddess role.

Sensual Tip: Explore light touch. Gentle, soothing caresses starting from the hair follicle, working down to your little piggies could be just the ticket to physical bliss. 

Dilemma 2: Bloating

Prevention: First off, take precautionary measures. If you have a tendency to bloat, take up to 100mg vitamin B-6 per day. This natural diuretic will help with water bloating. Also, cut out as much sodium from your diet as possible, and east more slowly. Eating quickly can cause you to swallow air that can cause bloating and gas.  I also find that eating less bread and pasta and more active culture yoghurt and raw veggies helps a great deal.

Can’t get past the discomfort? Take care of yourself first. Massage your stomach gently in circular motions in the direction that your food goes to help get air pockets moving.

Sensual Solution: This may be the day for an erotic massage and a return to days before intercourse…play with your hands, mouths…

Dilemma 3: Aches and Pains

Prevention: If you have residual pain from a car accident or just have a sore neck from daily office malarkey, aches and pains can do a bad number on your sex drive. Visit a physical therapist to get a daily stretching routine, go to a yoga class, or visit a day spa where you can soak and sauna until you are as limp as a noodle. Taking care of your well-being is an assured way to keep you running at your optimum level.

Sensual Solution: Have  a Spa Day with your partner! Pamper yourselves together and see what an aphrodisiac extended care and nurturing each other is. 

Dilemma 4: Red Days 

This splits us girls in a few camps, the Big 2 being to have or not to have sex. I won’t speak for all ladies, but I wax and wane during this time. I very much want to be with my man, but some days feels just too icky. Here preventative measures and solutions blur together. First, know how your partner feels about this time of the month and work your game plan from there. What do you feel comfortable with? Is the the week where he gives you a massage and the rest of the focus is on him? Or do you act as normal and just take it a little easy on crampy days? Prevention and solution during this time breaks down to comfort levels and communication.