The Best Sex Advice is Listening

Slap happy after reading how-to books on man-pleasing last night (and no, I don’t mean the Housewife’s Guide to Pleasant Living), my man said bluntly, “The best how-to guide is me. Listen.” Hm, so giving the world’s best blowjob can’t be learned from a book. I counted the number of things I’ve tried on him in the past…stuff expounded as the be all and end all of male pleasure–even tips from my gay “boyfriend.” The only one that seemed to stick was how to play with his balls and oral-anal pleasure. The rest have been a “That’s nice, but if you’d…” affair. That’s fine, but sometimes a girl just wants to show up and be SuperWoman in bed.

Aha. To my frustrated face, he replied, “But because you listen to me, you are SuperWoman in bed. My SuperWoman.”

And then the warm fuzzies came.

Now what are how-to books and columns like this for? Permission and creative inspiration. So, read with a grain of salt and enjoy knowing that for whatever dirty deeds you come up with that he agrees to, I will always support you in your exploration. Let freakness be your weakness.